Could you all help?
I give my daughters chores to do, by paying her "tickets". She does them well. I told her if she gets 100 tickets, she will get ONE movie and ONE pizza as a reward. She would be able to earn 100 tickets within a week.
Here's the dilemma.
She mouthed off hubby. Hubby decided to take her tickets...didn't say how many he took. Just a small amount. It upset daughter. I told her she will NOT get a ticket for being mouthy with hubby. Do I agree with this taking away the tickets? No. She will get a ticket for being nice and respectful to Daddy. (They both test each other, acting like kids, and both of them are continuing counseling). DD and I get along most of the time and I was able to gain her attention and trust MOST of the time. Sure she will test me now and then.
Love and Logic method does not work for dd. Made it worse. So the ticket deal worked so far with me. She can have a Sunday off but can earn extra tickets for doing it if she chooses to do it on her own or did something I didn't ask her to do a chore or not on her chore list.
If you use the ticket method, what would you all do if the child acted up? Do you NOT give her any tickets? Or do you take a ticket for each "unacceptable behavior"? How much is too much? I don't want dd get so discouraged that she would give up doing chores. She is 7 years old and has ADHD and just got off one med, into another med, very lose dose of the generic Adderall of 5 mg. Granted due to the LOW doses, she is very hyper and her thinking is all over the place. We just had to "test" this med to make sure she does not have any reaction to it, started it a week ago.
I give my daughters chores to do, by paying her "tickets". She does them well. I told her if she gets 100 tickets, she will get ONE movie and ONE pizza as a reward. She would be able to earn 100 tickets within a week.
Here's the dilemma.
She mouthed off hubby. Hubby decided to take her tickets...didn't say how many he took. Just a small amount. It upset daughter. I told her she will NOT get a ticket for being mouthy with hubby. Do I agree with this taking away the tickets? No. She will get a ticket for being nice and respectful to Daddy. (They both test each other, acting like kids, and both of them are continuing counseling). DD and I get along most of the time and I was able to gain her attention and trust MOST of the time. Sure she will test me now and then.
Love and Logic method does not work for dd. Made it worse. So the ticket deal worked so far with me. She can have a Sunday off but can earn extra tickets for doing it if she chooses to do it on her own or did something I didn't ask her to do a chore or not on her chore list.
If you use the ticket method, what would you all do if the child acted up? Do you NOT give her any tickets? Or do you take a ticket for each "unacceptable behavior"? How much is too much? I don't want dd get so discouraged that she would give up doing chores. She is 7 years old and has ADHD and just got off one med, into another med, very lose dose of the generic Adderall of 5 mg. Granted due to the LOW doses, she is very hyper and her thinking is all over the place. We just had to "test" this med to make sure she does not have any reaction to it, started it a week ago.