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COChix said:
Greetings guys, back home after surgery. It went fine other than me being a bit loopy afterwards. Just reading from yesterday, not sure I will post too much.
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Hoping you heal really quick and back to enjoying your flock real soon.
 
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COChix said:
Greetings guys, back home after surgery. It went fine other than me being a bit loopy afterwards. Just reading from yesterday, not sure I will post too much.
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Good luck with a speedy recovery.
 
BayBay Peepers said:
Not a quote, just a thought I had last night. This past weekend I went to visit a close friend of mine. We both grew up in a small suburb and I moved to the country while she moved to the city. This doesn't mean anything just setting the whole picture. So anyways, she needed to go to the store and get new makeup or something. She was asking me questions about it I didn't know the answer to for I rarely wear any myself. I'm more of a special occasion kind of person (not that I think there's anything wrong with people wearing it daily). I told her I don't really wear it (which she knew, we've known each other since pre-teens) and she goes "oh, just too lazy." Then I started coming up with excuses like it's too harsh on my skin or I don't have time. Thinking about it later it bothered me that I couldn't just say "I'm more comfortable without it." That's just who I am and always have been. My first job was on a farm...no need to look fancy there :) I know this is kind of a silly story, but what bothered me is I didn't feel comfortable enough with my best friend to just state who I am. I have no problem with our differences so I don't know why I felt the need to try to pretend I was someone else. Is there a rewind button?
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Since this is your best friend, yes, there is a rewind button. Just call her up and tell her that her comment was not only untrue but a little hurtful, and it made you uncomfortable enough that you resorted to socially accepted excuses instead of being truthful with her. Then simply tell her that while some people prefer to put on the face that they (or others) find most attractive, you are comfortable enough with yourself to display the face that nature gave you, no apologies or excuses needed! As your best friend, you expect her to accept the differences between you without judgment, just as you do for her. Then tell her that the word "lazy" is insulting to a farmer, and ask her to come out to your farm some weekend and work her little makeup-applying fingers to the bone. She won't use the word "lazy" around you again.

People treat us the way we allow them to treat us. Even best friends (and husbands) need some guidance as to where the boundaries are sometimes. It's always better to be truthful than to be frustrated, even if you have to revisit the event.

And I agree with the makeup issue. I buy some about every 10 years, then have to throw it away when it turns to an unusable blob. I've had a few clients and co-workers ask me about it, and I'm really upfront about it. I just hate the stuff. Don't even wear it on job interviews. I prefer to shine in other ways!!
 
"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission” Eleanor Roosevelt

“When I come to the edge of all the light I know, and am about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: either there will be something solid to stand on or i will be taught how to fly.” - Barbara J. Winter

"And no one will listen to us until we listen to ourselves.” Marianne Williamson
 
Welcome back COChix
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Hope you feel better soon!
 
I haven't worn make-up since my early 20's and I'm in my 30's now. My DH prefers me unpainted, which is just as well, because I prefer to walk around without war paint on. I find make-up uncomfortable, personally. As long as you are clean, neat and well groomed, who cares what you do on top of that?
 

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