rant: At some point it's time to GROW UP!

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my husband has friends like this...this girl has 2 teenagers that are the same age as my teens and she is always hitting the bars or going to do role playing events or whatever they are..she is 35 and still trying to pull off the sullen goth look, so sad!

Maybe you need to suggest that they do a "ROLL PLAYING" for being PARENTS!!!! Try that "GAME" on for size.
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Just say:

Dear So-so,
It was very nice to hear from you. Sorry, I can't watch the kids that weekend.
Bye

You owe her no explanations. Once she realizes that you are not available for dumping her kids on you will be of no use to her, and she won't bother you again. People like that only associate with people that they can use like a doormat. That's probably why she has so little contact with you.
 
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my husband has friends like this...this girl has 2 teenagers that are the same age as my teens and she is always hitting the bars or going to do role playing events or whatever they are..she is 35 and still trying to pull off the sullen goth look, so sad!

Maybe you need to suggest that they do a "ROLL PLAYING" for being PARENTS!!!! Try that "GAME" on for size.
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that is singlehandedly the best comeback ever!
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I like horsejody's answer the best.

It is OK for the parents to ask for a favor and it's OK for you to say NO if it's not convenient for you. No explanations/excuses required. No need to feel pressured by them. Somewhere I read a sign, it said,'an emergency on your part is not necessarily an emergency on my part." Enjoy your own weekend and give no more thought to these "friends." They certainly won't be thinking about you. They are most likely already looking for the next sucker/victim they can use for a free babysitter.
 
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I thought I was the only one that took my child everywhere mostly by choice , shure there were times that Id love to have someone watch him , the last time I was horribly sick for instance but mostly I like him being with me we go for long walks and play in the park and go to the pool and just hang out, I found though that people find this shocking and even irritateing , my son isnt the best behaved child in the world being a very energetic 4 year old but he defently isnt one of those monster children ether. Im shocked by the things I cant do simply becuase other people dont want him around , I coudnt even be on the bored of our local MOPS group and do there activities sometimes cause I wanted to bring my son with me , and this is a group for moms of preschoolers .
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Why don't you just tell them. You will not watch their children because that doesn't seem like a life or death situation. Their children are not well behaved. I do not expect anyone to watch my child nor do I watch anyone elses child(ren), I've babysat once for a friend so she could be there for her second child's surgery then I learned that the children's hospital in our area has a place where her older child could play. I understand not wanting to chase after a second child while waiting for your first child to get out of surgery but it got to the point she wanted me to watch her first child so she could just go and visit with the second child. I believe it is a family affair so I told her kindly I couldn't babysit for her.
 
Y'know, as a parent of eight kids I can totally dig the idea that sometimes, sometimes you need a break, want a little goofing off time, want to connect with the inner child but as a parent of EIGHT it's a little difficult to find anyone willing to take that many kids so I've always taken mine with me and ended up having a wonderful time every single time. If you're a decent parent you can teach your kids to have fun with you and behave so they don't ruin everyone else's fun time and you can build memories that last forever. I don't think being an adult or a parent means that you have to sacrifice everything on the altar of parenthood but there's no reason why you can't enjoy your hobbies or activities with your kids.
 

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