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[debilorrah]

What do you say to that? I wish you well, Goodbye.

 

[redhen]

and since you cant trust her parents to help..the next time..*and i mean the very next time* she threatens sucide..call the police...tell them what she said..they will HAVE to go to her house...and check it out...also....since her and her parents sound kinda shady..record the sucide threat through the phone...because she will just say you are lying...and then you will get in trouble or something...also,,,if she is just using this to control you...if you call the police in..it may scare her enough to stop playing games..*IF she is playing games* the thing is you never know...

 

[dave_Cash69]

this is just a bad, hard situation all aroun.

 

[redhen]

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yes, it is..just make sure that you arent feeding it...

 

[dave_Cash69]

I honestly appreciate all of the fast and witty responses.
any other tips are appreciated too.

 

[EweSheep]

I think Momma said it best.

You need to be strong and move on without her. You dont need that kind of soap opera. Yes it will hurt for a while but it would be better for you.

And give the suicide messages to her parents so they can give her the treatments or a long talk with her.

 

[rooster-red]

Run dave run!... in the opposite direction!

You can't live her life for her, she will do whatever she will do, you can't change that.

 

[NancyDz]

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Dave,

This is just more manipulation to push your buttons, don't feed into it, just walk away. It's not healthy and feeding into it, just keeps it going. Tell her not to contact you and stick to it yourself.


Good luck!

Nancy

 

[debilorrah]

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What he said!

 

[Momma_Cluck]

When someone thinks EVERYONE else is wrong, the same, has problems etc... it is THEM that has a real problem...

Tell her what the other members have said...
"I do care about you, but this is goodbye-- have a great life..."

Then if you get the "you are just like them" lines again...
tell her: "Don't you think there may be a REASON you think all us guys are exactly alike, and always leave you? It is because YOU have a problem... Get help...I can't be with you anymore--goodbye."

And NEVER look back.

Remember: SOME people will hurt themselves just to get your attention...
from the sound of her.. she might--

BUT: It is rarely a serious suicide attempt--
usually pills (enough to puke or pass out-- but not life threatening) or cut themselves enough to look scary but not do any real damage...

IF this girl does something like this--
DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!
DO NOT CALL!
DO NOT GO BACK!
DO NOT GO VISIT!
It is exactly what she wants--and it helps reinforce her actions-- she will continue to do this type of thing any time she doesn't get her way... and someday, she may screw-up and really hurt herself, or someone else!

And whether or not YOU think her folks are of any help --
remember, they are her parents!
No matter how long you've known HER- you do not REALLY know Them...!!

Send the letter-- or even just a note to them that she has been threatening to kill herself and that you are concerned, but can not be involved anymore....