Rude Behavior, I'm Perplexed

[Rozzie]

What really ticks me off is when people don't make way for people in wheelchairs so that they can get through the doors. I've run into this a few times lately -- person in wheelchair needing to get through the door and waiting and waiting trying to get a chance while non-disabled people push past not letting them get near the door.

Let's just say that I step in and shame those people publicly for such behavior...

 

[Laurajean]

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I have a Jeep, and for those of you who have Jeeps, you know there is a "Jeep Wave". Anytime a Jeep passes another Jeep, we wave to each other, or sometimes people will do a peace sign. It always makes me wonder why that's just a Jeep thing (I know a lot of bikers do it too), but why not everyone? Sometimes I try randomly waving at people but they just look confused and keep going. The only other exception is on my road, because it's a narrow dirt road and if you happen to have two cars passing, one has to pull off to the side. So then the other person waves thank you, but that's about it.

 

[Knock Kneed Hen]

Recently coming home from church I came upon a stalled car blocking the lane. The guys car went dead going up hill on a blind curve and he was trying to push it out of his way. I stopped, pulled over & jumped out of my van full of kids to help. As I ran up to the car it became clear this guy was in trouble as he had a foot in a cast. I told him to jump in the car and put it in neutral so I could push him backwards across two lanes . . . the only place to go out of traffic on this mountain road. As I'm pushing the car traffic has now stopped in both directions. I notice mostly pick up trucks. Once I get the car to safety and cross back over the road in my dress and high heels I get lots of hoots and hollers from the men in the trucks. So why didn't a single one of them jump out to help me?

I'm usually surprised when someone does something nice and I always commend them!! I don't want chivalry dead.

 

[chicmom]

Definitely rude, but not worth your time to fret over........Life is just too short! Too bad somebody didn't reach them manners.

 

[Judy]

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X2. Of course I am an old woman so I really get special treatment, people walking up to my car to offer to load groceries in and the like. I carried a clumsy but not heavy box out of an office recently and a man on his way in literally took it from me then smiled and asked where my car was. Said he just couldn't let me carry that thing. Even young people with tattoos and rings in multiple places and long hair and their pants falling off do these things around here. (I don't believe in dress codes.)

 

[phaethona]

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I have a Jeep, and for those of you who have Jeeps, you know there is a "Jeep Wave". Anytime a Jeep passes another Jeep, we wave to each other, or sometimes people will do a peace sign. It always makes me wonder why that's just a Jeep thing (I know a lot of bikers do it too), but why not everyone? Sometimes I try randomly waving at people but they just look confused and keep going. The only other exception is on my road, because it's a narrow dirt road and if you happen to have two cars passing, one has to pull off to the side. So then the other person waves thank you, but that's about it.

I've never noticed the jeep wave(though my father-in-law has a '46 willys that I'm dying to get my hands on)
but I do know that with motorcycles, it's not so much a "biker wave" as it is a "Harley wave". that tradition comes from way back in the early days of HOG-harley owner's group, it's a harley commoradery thing.

 

[Laurajean]

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I have a Jeep, and for those of you who have Jeeps, you know there is a "Jeep Wave". Anytime a Jeep passes another Jeep, we wave to each other, or sometimes people will do a peace sign. It always makes me wonder why that's just a Jeep thing (I know a lot of bikers do it too), but why not everyone? Sometimes I try randomly waving at people but they just look confused and keep going. The only other exception is on my road, because it's a narrow dirt road and if you happen to have two cars passing, one has to pull off to the side. So then the other person waves thank you, but that's about it.

I've never noticed the jeep wave(though my father-in-law has a '46 willys that I'm dying to get my hands on)
but I do know that with motorcycles, it's not so much a "biker wave" as it is a "Harley wave". that tradition comes from way back in the early days of HOG-harley owner's group, it's a harley commoradery thing.

It has to be the Wrangler style Jeep too, not the 4 door SUV kind. Those apparently don't merit 'the wave'. They'll also let each other out into traffic, etc. It's like vehicle discrimination.

 

[welsummerchicks]

Two women does not a trend make.

There are always rude people here and there...but to be honest, you never know WHY people do things.

We make ALL sorts of assumptions - did it to be mean, did it because of something I did they didn't like, trying to make a political point, striking a blow for women's lib....etc, etc - all just assumptions.

It might be a person who was physically abused, or just got fired, or their kid just died. Maybe you said something that rubbed them the wrong way, 'here...honey'...some people don't like that.

I banged into someone the day I had to run to the governor's office to get an emergency passport to go to another country where my father was in the hospital. I yelled at someone on a pay phone to get off, and I told a bank teller to hurry it up giving me traveler's checks. No, it was still being rude, but sometimes people have reasons. And they aren't always anything you'll ever know about, you just have to accept that sometimes you are a minor player in what's going on in their lives, just step aside and let them do what they need to do.

Most of the time, you don't get thanked for giving someone a little room for what they have to do. But they remember, and they know.

That happened so many years ago, and I still remember what the person on the pay phone did. She handed the phone to me and said, 'Here, you do what you need to do'. And her face was just pure compassion. She was worried about why someone needed the phone so bad. Never forgot it.

 

[texasgal]

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I have a Jeep, and for those of you who have Jeeps, you know there is a "Jeep Wave". Anytime a Jeep passes another Jeep, we wave to each other, or sometimes people will do a peace sign. It always makes me wonder why that's just a Jeep thing (I know a lot of bikers do it too), but why not everyone? Sometimes I try randomly waving at people but they just look confused and keep going. The only other exception is on my road, because it's a narrow dirt road and if you happen to have two cars passing, one has to pull off to the side. So then the other person waves thank you, but that's about it.

I've never noticed the jeep wave(though my father-in-law has a '46 willys that I'm dying to get my hands on)
but I do know that with motorcycles, it's not so much a "biker wave" as it is a "Harley wave". that tradition comes from way back in the early days of HOG-harley owner's group, it's a harley commoradery thing.

It's a biker wave .. might have been started as a "Harley Wave" .. but I don't ride a HD and I get and give all the waves ..

Now .. I DO ride a cruiser .. I notice that cr*tch rocket riders rarely get or give waves .. ??

Neat about the Jeep thing .. but makes sense.

Also .. PU trucks down here .. of course that makes up 90% of the vehicles .. but we all wave to each other ..

 

[Ridgerunner]

You can control what you do. You cannot control what someone else does. And rude is in the eye of the beholder. I live where I have to travel some gravel roads to get out. Often, when I meet a car, they stop and let me drive by. That sounds courteous, doesn't it. And to them I'm sure it is. But when they stop at a narrow place in the road where I have to hug the edge to get by, I find it would be more courteous if they just came ahead a little and let me pull over at a wide part of the road. Then there was the time I was walking and a car came up behind me. I moved over in the chigger infested, dew-soaked weeds on the side of the road, and kept walking, waiting until they caught up to me so I could stop, turn and wave as they went by. I'm sure they thought they were being courteous by slowing down and creeping along behind me, being very careful to not gain on me. The would not pass me or even get that close to me, forcing me to stay in those wet chigger and tick infested weeds, until I stopped, turned around and waved them by. They were being so nice to me, in their eyes anyway, how could I really be upset?

Then there was the lady at the Post Office who was so downright rude and short that I really worked to get a different clerk if I could. But when her cancer went into remission, she became a very pleasant person. I understand that sometimes people are preoccupied.

I do consider it rude to let a door go into someone's face. But I figure it is my job to not get hurt if somebody does let a door go in my face. I figure it is my job as a pedestrian to not let a driver run over me. If I'm driving, I expect that idiot to run a red light or stop sign or fail to yield at a 4-way stop. I can control what I do. I cannot control what someone else is doing, but I can be aware of how other people's actions can affect me and mine, especially when they are not clicking on all cylinders, whether because something else is going on in their life or they just don't click on all cylinders.