Sad Vent :(

[tiffanyh]

Im all for a pity party. Count me in.

 

[ranchhand]

So tell us about the brothers! And Guam- can you get American food? Can you bake a cake? Do you live on a base? Is Omega sitting on your keyboard? What a story that one is!

 

[flakey chick]

Nothing is like being there, but perhaps you could set up an internet type video conference? I know time zone differences can wreck havok too. We may have to miss our family's get together this year and talked about video "call" instead.

 

[chickenzoo]

Can I join the pitty party? Retired military wife of 17 years here..............

Military messed up husbands lungs-after 17.5 years of faithful service, most living with this horrible condition, they let him go. He had just made Chief , things were looking better then wham - no retirement- only disability pay which is barely enough to live on. (Had to have been Chief for 3 years to get that)
VA was no better, they said his condition wasn't serious enough because he didn't visit the doctor enough............ hello... in the service he was trying to keep his job so we could feed ourselves! Who is going to hire a person with two bad lungs that is on enough meds to put an Elephant out! The ER gave us so much stuff to try and control his condition so we did not have to live at the hospital.@ !!@#$^&^%

Now of course he is having trouble finding work, it's been a year! I refinanced the house to have $ to live on. I have been going through depression, they have been changing my meds too - trying to find something that does not leave me passed out on the couch or sick from withdraw. I too am detached from my family, my hubbies family is better, but right now his father is in hospital waiting to die of Pancreatic Cancer. I could go on and on.....
That said...............................................
Try to engross yourself in things that you love and enjoy. You have the right to feel sad, but don't let it take control over who you are. You have family, your beautiful child. You have a BYC family. Have them back home send you pics and video of what you've missed. Make a scrap book of those things and what you are doing there. It's tough - you're tougher...........

 

[ranchhand]

Quote:
Definitely some hugs your way chickenzoo!

Excellent piece of advice!

 

[SarahFair]

Sometimes the Military just makes me so mad with how they treat the boys! I have a few friends about to be deported to afghanistan

They just had a first sergeant die this past weekend and a few more in their group the week before that. Im scared for them cause they are some of my best friends..

But back to you.
Things will get better! There is always going to be something happening. Its amazing how life carries on when were not around, huh? Life is what you make it

I moved to Monroe and yes its only 35 miles from my friends and family but it still kind of feels like your 10,000. Best thing I can suggest you do is find a friend. Make a little life of your own out there.

 

[insiderart]

Do you use skype, you can video conference on it too. When my DD was little video conferencing was great... keeps you in touch with your family a bit more like being there.

What is your favorite food from home?

 

[tmk]

Hi Holly

From what I remember there were always two kinds of people on the oversea military bases (and stateside also…

). The people who were miserable and complained that they don’t want to be there the entire tour, and the people who made best out of wherever they got.
I really think the choice is up to you!

If you really need to get back home, you can call Family Advocacy Center (or similar facility which provide info for military families) and they should have a lot of information about using MAC flights to go back to the stateside.

But why not make new friends right where you are? After all, your home sweet home is where your hubby and your baby are, right? It will be more fun if you have friends.
Making new friends on oversea bases can be easier than it is back home. Because everyone around you is on the same boat--They are miles and miles away from home with no one they know around, probably missing home like you, and most definitely wanting a friend or two…like you. I have made great friends during oversea tours whom we spent special holidays together, cried missing home and family together, and share our joys together. Just like we would with our real family back home.


How I made friends at oversea bases:

1)Contact base Youth Center and find out if there are any toddler playgroup.
When the playgroup I joined with my twins was cancelled because the volunteer coordinator moved. So I became a coordinator and it was a lot of fun!

So even if they currently don’t have one, you can make one up if you want. Your little princess will love it.

2)Be a regular visitor at the playgrounds near your housing with your daughter.
You will find lots of other moms (and some stay-at-home dads too) and your little girl will find her favorite playmates also.
Pack up extra snacks and juices for surprise companies to share once in a while.

3)Be involved.
Attend your hubby's squadron parties for the family. Volunteer your time for anything you can do with your little one.
Outdoor Recreation Center has lots of short tours and info on “things to do” and “places to go” even with the little ones.



You and your family may have long military life ahead of you. If you have to do this, you may as well make it as much fun as possible, right?
Venting helps some times, but I hope you won’t have time for it soon because of all the new things and people that are keeping you busy.

Good luck

 

[gritsar]

 

[Rolsjo]

Aw, I know just how you feel. We used to live overseas also. Actually, our kids grew up overseas and now life in America is "foreign" to them. It is hard to miss out on the big family events. I'm sorry you're going to miss the weddings and the new baby.

I appreciate the sacrifice you are making for your husband to serve in the military.