She "dumped" her ferret on us. "Rant"

[The Chicken Lady]

Good for you!

Just make sure the visits don't turn in to lengthy stays; in fact you shouldn't even let her visit overnight. I don't think she believes you are "for real" yet because of how she reacted... But the belief will sink in after a while, and you will win in the end.

Don't you feel totally empowered now?

 

[Ferngully]

"Yes, lots of out of cage time. Try having 6 running around the house LOL Course, the only other pet in our house with them is the yorkie and she just ignores them."


I know. It just wouldn't be fair to him. I applaud you for being able to do it. I am sure if I dug deep and thought harder I could have made it work, but we are just beginning our chicken journey and we want to go with that. So with all the research I did, maybe when we are old and feeble we will get a ferret to ride around on our laps in our wheelchairs with us. Should keep the nursing home staff entertained when they "accidentally" get out of their cages, especially during state inspections. oh, oh I can't wait. The mayhem I will cause.

 

[Ferngully]

Don't you feel totally empowered now?

For the first time in many years with this one. I am mom hear roar.
Or as she, of all people, told me one time years ago "a moms got to do what a moms got to do".​

 

[Nikki28]

So what did happen to the first pregnancy? or was it just a fabrication?

Good job! She will only benefit from you being super mom!

 

[SpottedCrow]

Good for you, Ferngully. With all the other things you have going on, you obviously didn't need more...
Hugs and prayers.

Ferrets are certainly a handful. I take care of them at work on a daily basis and they can tire you out quickly...not to mention biting and scratching.

Cyn, ferrets aren't rodents, they're members of the weasel family.

 

[Ferngully]

Sadly first pregnancy, baby lives with paternal grandmother, I could not do it. I could not live under my daughters thumb because I was caring for her child while she was incarcerated, and after she got out. We knew she would use the baby against us and as a bargaining chip. We thought long and hard about it and cried and had many sleepless nights over it but we knew what we had to do for our children at home. Pregnancy number 2, ended in miscarriage, yes she got the talk many years ago.

We wanted grandchildren, just under better circumstances.

My oldest son sent me a message from germany christmas morning where he is recuperating, they were going to call and surprise us with "the news" later that day, but I guess at 10am their time she lost the baby..He has wanted kids for so long. So sad for them.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

You know Ferngully I certainly hope she does get it together. But I can't help wondering if her diagnosis may be incorrect. Was she ever re-evaluated after your 9 year old was diagnosed? She may have a developmental issue and not a mental issue.

 

[Nikki28]

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I am sorry to hear that.

As for her first baby you have a responsibility to your children and I completely understand and agree with your decision. You sound like a wonderful woman and I wish you happiness in the new year.

 

[Ferngully]

sarabeth she has been re-evaluated so many times it is pathetic. Her list of diagnosis looks like an alphabet. (sorry, not funny) But after so many years at some point you have to gain a sense of humor or you will lose your mind.

BP2 rapid cycler (like every 30 minutes) ADHD, another that in laymens terms means sociopath. and a few personality disorders to go with. She has seen specialists since she was 4 and had every treatment and therapy out there. Still paying all those bills. lol. They will probably be drawing from my social security at some point in life.
Her father and I always make sure the kids recieve the best in care. We skip pediatricians sometimes. We both are in the medical field, so if it needs an ENT, or plastic surgeon so there are no scars from a cut to the forehead, we go straight to the source.

 

[chickenpiedpiper]

I will admit I have come into this conversation late, and only read the first and last pages... That said, I have a suggestion.

If the young lady is still gone, and you are still unhappy about the adition of the new ferrett to your home, (understandably so) Find him a new home quick. a good permanent home. That sends a pretty clear message to the young lady that you are not a dumping or holding ground for things or animals. as long as she can get you to care for them, there will be other animals on down the line.

Ferretts are wonderful intelligent and sensitive creatures that really need a lot of play time and attention, they go a little batty locked up and alone. I hope you havent spent too much of your chicken money on the lil bugger yet, if so, ask for some of it back from the adopters, Most people are ok with that!

Sounds like you have your hands full, and my heart goes out to you. If it is at all possible, try to get some professional counseling, it is not as pricey as you might think, and unbelievably helpful! Sometimes we need a sounding board for these issues, and this young lady has more than her share. The more knowledge you can gather, the better the situation will become in the long run. And remember, her actions are not about you, they are totally and completly about her! You and your feelings are clearly the last things on her mind.

Good Luck!