She "dumped" her ferret on us. "Rant"

[mtnhomechick]

Let me say I applaud you for your actions and "TRUE LOVE" toward your daughter whom I'm sure you really DO love. But, love is still teaching and some of us have Late Bloomers.

Reclaim your life. You deserve it.

She'll likely come back to you someday. If she doesn't it wouldn't be any different than today.

God Bless You Brave Mother.

Mary

 

[SarahBeth9394]

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Multiple diagnosis are really difficult. I hear you about the alphabet. I do hope things get better for her.

 

[Hackles]

All I can say is Well-done.

 

[EweSheep]

Well done!

 

[ginbart]

Good job, I didn't do the same as you did. I was not as strong, I made the mistake of taking, no it's wasn't a mistake, I have a son who is 8 now he has ADHD, OCD and seizers. Long story short. I had to do the same thing you did only with my son. He has, I think, 3 children none are with him or their mothers and he has another one on the way but she broke up with him. 2 children are with one girl and the other 2 are with 2 different girls. It's too bad he doesn't have insurance I told him he needs to get fixed. I have his first and the other two were adopted. I don't now what the mother of his next child is going to due.

I made him and his girlfreind, the mother of his first child, leave my home in the middle of winter with 6" of snow. I gave him enought money for a hotel, told him not to take his son and if he had a problem with that to call children and youth. The mother would not sign the adoption papers until we told her we would be getting support from her. The papers were in the lawyers office the next day, yes the next day.

I could go on and on, about my sister and the rest of my family, but I just wanted you to know you are not alone. Maybe I should write a book. Take care and God Bless you.

 

[curliet]

In your original post you said that she mentioned that she might be pregnant "again'. what happened with her previous pregnancy, what will you do if there is a child?

 

[Dill]

Would you be willing to adopt out the ferret? I'd love to have one. For 4 yrs now I;ve been trying to get ferrets and in that time I've done extensive research on them.

 

[gumpsgirl]

It sounds like you have been given plenty of sound advice here. I just wanted to wish you luck and give you big hugs!

BTW - My all time favorite quote is "Mothers of teenagers know why animals eat their young"!

Fitting, isn't it?!?!

 

[Ferngully]

Curliet what happened with the first is on page 6. Essentially, she lives with the paternal grandmother. If she is pregs again, we will cross that road when it gets here. She has already miscarried one late in 2008.



Dill, We were able to find simon a good home pretty quickly.

 

[Ellie_NY_chick]

Oh Ferngully. What can anyone say that hasn't been said?

I know no matter what you are always a mother, so all I can add is that if you think she is every truly a harm to herself or one of her children, you have that wonderful little resource in FL called the Baker Act. If she is "partying" by drinking or worse, there's a lot you can do if you have to in order to protect her and that potential baby (let's hope not). At 18, anyone who is supplying her with alcohol can be arrested, not to mention anything else they may be supplying her with. Also, I would worry about what potentially may happen to her if she's just hooking up with random guys. There are a lot of violent creepos out there.

If this is possibly your DD's third pregnancy at only 18, maybe she could use a Norplant or some other long term birth control device. Of course this isn't protecting her against HIV and other STDs, but obviously she isn't considering that anyway. Maybe that would be a way to help her.

She's still young at 18. There's still hope. The way she handled you asking her to leave shows that. Teenagers are stupid - God knows I was. It was legal to go to bars when I was 18 and I sure took advantage of it. I turned around a couple of years later and all was okay. She's struggling against her own brain and trying to find her way in the world. It's hard enough without her medical issues. She didn't ask for her mental and emotional problems.

While I think we all agree you absolutely did the right thing, I think your daughter is worthy of people's understanding. Just because we can't see her illness it doesn't make it any less a challenge in her life than if she had to face a flight of stairs everyday from a wheelchair. What seems like obvious choices and consequences to us isn't obvious to her.

I don't think I could ever be strong enough to face raising special needs children. You are a very special person. I hope your daughter finds her way in life and everything works out.