She roasted the chicks! IM SO ANGRY

Baby Blue, maybe we had the same parents. My baby brother would get furious and chase us with a meat cleaver. My older sister and I would race into our bedroom and push the dresser against the door. My mother would be screaming that she'a calling the police and having a heart attack etc. She never punished my brother, never told our father and never had the brains to hide or get rid of the meat cleaver. This played out many times . When my brother was old enough to drive he'd take us to the grocery store. If my mother criticised his driving, he would dump us out at the store and drive home. My mom would call home and ask my dad to pick us up. He never questioned why my brother came home without us. My grown up brother still has major anger issues almost 50 years later. He never learned how to argue(fight fair), "it's his way or the highway" Alot of people should never become parents.
 
Accident or not, that just sucks. I'm so sorry.
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You can bet my kids would be in a heap of trouble if they did that! (although I must admit, my kids wouldn't be brooding chicks in their rooms either - just too risky and it would keep them from sleeping well with the peeps/light) They are so lucky there wasn't a fire!!!! My kids have always been taught how to care for animals and that pets are dependent on us for their care.

Something you learn as an adult is sometimes your animals are better company than people. My animals have never hurt me, betrayed me, lied to me and no matter how crummy your day is, they make you feel better.

BF's will come and go, but I'm sorry you won't be able to go to prom.

When you are ready, I have had great luck with hatching eggs here on BYC.

These aren't what you were looking for, but they are gorgeous and inexpensive:
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=325911

I have seen lavender silkie eggs for sale recently, maybe you can find the post in the archive section and PM the breeder? There's lavender D'uccles on the hatching eggs section right now. (although the listing ended)
 
Very sorry for your loss. I would send you the chicks you so wish for if I could.

There will be "other" dances and "other" boyfriends and "other" chickens and "other" shows, but there will never be "this" dance or "these" chicks or "this" moment again. I am sorry you are going to miss out on so many things I know you wanted in this final year at home and in 4-H.

I will ask that you not retaliate against your sibling. It is your parents job to be parents, even when they will not do it.

Try not to hate her too long. Carrying this baggage through-out life will get very heavy. I hope this was a case where she simply didn't believe you when you said they would die, that she did not try to kill them.

It was not an accident, she deliberately did something against instructions. She should bury the chicks, as previously suggested. My 11 yo had to watch our efforts to revive a chick he had played a little too rough with. We failed, it died in front of him, in obvious pain. This was very emotionally educational, I think the fist time I've seen remorse in this special needs kid. I think burying the chicks without any kind of funeral fruppery would also be educational.

When she complained about the light hurting her eyes, that should have been a clue to remove the brooder from her room. It was, after all, making her uncomfortable, and the family was callous to her needs by not removing it. Hey, if we are going to be judgemental, we'd better call that one. These were not her banty chicks, correct? They should have been somewhere else if they were bothering her.

As a Mom of an Elder Son and a Younger Son, I can tell you it is often difficult to determine the greatest amount of fault in these situations.

At our house the Elder tends to be bossy, and expects the younger child to obey to the letter and without question as if the elder were a parent. The younger doesn't see the validity of this (would you if the roles were reversed?) It is hard for the parent to see the Elder behavior as anything but bullying when done so repeatedly. It isn't a matter of thinking the youngest is perfect, but of protecting them from what appears to be a physically bigger and threatening (and often enraged to the point of unpredictability) elder sibling. I'd be on my eldest's side more often if I didn't think he were about to injure the younger.

In your specific situation, your parents have to love your sister more than the birds. They will have to deal with the fact that she put the family and its property in danger and that she killed much cherished and expensive family animals, who suffered as they died, and that she acted even after being told what would happen if she did. That will be easier for them to do if they are not fearing for her well-being in the face of your (completely understandable) anger. Take a walk. Cool off. Give them space to deal with it.

It is soooo hard being a parent and be expected to make every call right. Cut your folks as much slack as you can. If they are home-schooling you, I am willing to bet they are already making huge efforts on your behalf.

If you cannot see this, then concentrate on keeping your test scores up and getting out of there.

Make peace with your sister when you can. You'll be her sister forever (gulp!) so try to get past this eventually. Grieve, Breathe in, Breathe out, Move on.

Gee, I wish I could come up with this stuff when dealing with my own kids.....
 
I am so sorry for your loss. We lost a brooder full in Feb due to the heat lamp going out over night. I know your pain and frustration.


HOWEVER, please be thankful that your house did not burn down. We have had two houses in our area go up in flames and be a total loss, due to freak brooder accidents.

http://www.king5.com/news/local/Mother-son-injured-in-Auburn-house-fire-89506872.html

http://www.king5.com/news/local/Chicken-incubator-may-have-started-Auburn-fire-90544074.html

Give your sisters a hug, show them these links and be glad you can try again.

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And I would be just as ticked off, and if she isn't able to follow a simple direction no animals should be under her care, and I would probably not speak to my sister for some time if she did something like that. But remember she will always be your sister, even if she is a pain in the butt.
What my parents have told me is "its my fault, I didnt care about this chicks cuz I should have taken the bantam brooder back to the shed yesterday. and I got what I deserved for it."

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I am so sorry, It's hard to have your dreams dashed and feel like your not being heard. We hear you... and some of the posters have given you a jumping off point with hatchery suggestions. Good luck with that, and think about how your going to react to this incident.
You can not bring back your babies, but YOU can learn from this. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR REACTION. Good Luck
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