She does her thing, I do my thing, and we do our thing. It has worked really well for us. We always say that the only thing we have in common is our love for our family and the ocean.
Not quite true, but I think that our differences make us as strong as a couple as do our commonalities.
She does her thing, I do my thing, and we do our thing. It has worked really well for us. We always say that the only thing we have in common is our love for our family and the ocean.
Not quite true, but I think that our differences make us as strong as a couple as do our commonalities.
I would say that the problem with being different only arises if you actually believe that there's a problem! After all, how can you learn anything from each other if you always have the exact same point of view? Talking becomes pointless.
I would say that the problem with being different only arises if you actually believe that there's a problem! After all, how can you learn anything from each other if you always have the exact same point of view? Talking becomes pointless.
Having different interests can become a problem in a lot of ways. The key is the people involved. If you are mature and secure enough to allow the other person to be who they are, and support them in their interest, then it works. We see the opposite in horse circles all the time - a husband/boyfriend who is jealous of the time she spends with the horse. It's almost axiomatic - a girl is really into horses, gets a bit older, "discovers boys," and no longer has time for her horse. Women play that game too, of course, it's just that there are a lot more females that have horses as a hobby.
There are many ways to be supportive, too. I was talking to a fellow rabbit breeder one time, and remarked that we all go home from rabbit shows hoarse from "talking rabbit" all day. She said, "Of course we do - because nobody else wants to hear it!" There are limits, after all, and knowing what your loved ones' are helps to keep the peace.
Some people get into something because their loved one is interested in it. When hubby decided to start riding bicycling centuries, he asked me to be his training partner. I had to train harder than he did, and had the satisfaction of being in better shape than he was on one ride we did (he, he!). But I know my limits, and that boat of his is beyond what I can manage (I suspect it's beyond him, too, but just try telling him that!). On that one, "have fun, see ya later," is as supportive as I can be. Welll, if (BIG if!) they get good enough to actually enter a regatta, I'll come watch, and cheer them on - that I can do. Of course, even with shared interests, you have to allow each other their space. I know families that are all into breeding rabbits, where each works with their own favorite breed(s).
Think about it, Sour. Would you want a dog that flirts with everyone, swipes anything that isn't nailed down, and tries to bite your head off at odd moments?
Sour, I was going to suggest Queenie, but then you'd have to figure out how to get a throne in the dog box! And the tiara might interfere with her running if it wasn't properly fitted.
Think about it, Sour. Would you want a dog that flirts with everyone, swipes anything that isn't nailed down, and tries to bite your head off at odd moments?
Sour, I was going to suggest Queenie, but then you'd have to figure out how to get a throne in the dog box! And the tiara might interfere with her running if it wasn't properly fitted.
Think about it, Sour. Would you want a dog that flirts with everyone, swipes anything that isn't nailed down, and tries to bite your head off at odd moments?
Think about it, Sour. Would you want a dog that flirts with everyone, swipes anything that isn't nailed down, and tries to bite your head off at odd moments?
