Yes, I know, but if I stopped with that first thought, I would have to advise her not to go and that would be miserable, sitting at home because you found out too late that your date is a jerk.
I always try to turn the negative into a positive, if at all possible.
DS#1 is a typical 16 year old. He loves to fish, hunt, play PS3, and drive the truck, anywhere. He also likes girls, but hasn't had a girlfriend yet. There are several that he calls friends but none seem interested in dating.
A couple of weeks ago, one of these girl...........friends, called him on Friday and asked him if he was going to the homecoming game that night. He said he wanted to but wasn't sure if he would. She asked if he would take her. He asked my permission to go and take "Katy" and I asked if it was a date, explaining that if he just wanted to go and hang out I wanted him home earlier than the crowd (he's still a fairly new driver.) But if he had a date, they could stay for the end of the game then spend a little time at the local fast food/school hangout before taking her home. He called her and she agreed that it would be a date. He was very excited although he tried not to show it. He listened to all my advice about opening doors for her and meeting her parents when he picked her up at her house. I offered suggestions on what to wear and he actually listened! He looked very handsome, in a casual way, and even said he should wear that style more often. I told him not to try to kiss her goodnight. That either she wouldn't want him to and it would ruin the evening, or she would but would have to agree to a second date to get another chance. He grinned about that. We picked a bouquet of wild flowers and suggested that he tell her he would have done better if he had been given more notice. I did, however, insist that DS#2 ride along with them with instructions to do his own thing at the game and for DS#1 to drop him off after the game before going to the hangout or taking her home.
So far, so good. At her house, he went to the door, met the parents, gave her the flowers and agreed to take her younger brother to the game as well (making points with her mother.) At the game, she left DS#1 and went to find her current crush. He wouldn't talk to her so she got upset and asked her ex-boyfriend to take her home and left DS#1 to take her brother home after the game.
He shrugged it off. I'm still mad.
That young lady is on my list. Now, she calls him "Sweety" and "Handsome" and tells him that if he will bring her some coffee, she will give him a dollar. He makes her some coffee, in
my thermos, and carries it to her at school.............. Grrrrrrrrrrr!
Up on the roof again (not exactly - up on the ladder really) and rectified the situation. Initially the lights didn't work (I figured out why), and when they came on the Princess said, "God smiled on us." I don't think God has time to worry about my house lights.
