*sigh* I'm loosing my touch. (Warning: Hi-jacked by Em)

[sourland]

Tani, do you know how my old hands hurt today? The Christmas lights on the roof messed up night before last. Yesterday in the cold, through the ice and snow I located and replaced the bad section. When the timer put them on last night only one string of lights lit up.

Up on the roof again (not exactly - up on the ladder really) and rectified the situation. Initially the lights didn't work (I figured out why), and when they came on the Princess said, "God smiled on us." I don't think God has time to worry about my house lights.


Sorry, but that date/dork sounds like a real jerk. Go to the dance and then ignore him. Your Russian Orloff would probably be more fun, more intelligent, and better looking. HAVE FUN. Guess the Elders don't need to worry about any kissin'.

Take off your bucket and put it on his head.

 

[Bunnylady]

Sorry, but that date/dork sounds like a real jerk. Go to the dance and then ignore him. Your Russian Orloff would probably be more fun, more intelligent, and better looking. HAVE FUN. Guess the Elders don't need to worry about any kissin'.

Take off your bucket and put it on his head.

Maybe you should crown him with it?

 

[Wisher1000]

Tani - At first I thought, "That jerk." But the more I think about it, the more I see that it can really be a good thing.

First off, no pressure! You don't have to worry about what he thinks of you, if you are making a good impression, if you should (or shouldn't) act a certain way.....in other words, free to completly be yourself! Have Fun! He may want you to be his date (dance with just him, sit with him, walk around with him, and if so, you should) but if he gets there and ignores you, don't let that keep you from having fun. Another good result is that the other guys will see you there, having fun, being fun, and may decide to ask you to the next dance. You may also be free to dance with whomever you like. If your date dances, then dance with him. If he doesn't or won't, ask if he minds if you dance with another "friend." Then, don't be shy about asking other boys to dance, as long as they don't have a dance partner that will be mad.

I don't envy you, I wouldn't go back voluntarily for anything, but if I had to go back, I would be even less shy than I was at your age (which wasn't much) and just relax and have fun. Confidence and a happy outlook are more attractive than anything else, even if the boys are not ready to recognize that fact for a few years.

I hope that you have a GREAT time tonight!

 

[sourland]

I was just going to give some more politically incorrect Nuncle Sour advice, but instead I think I will just fly out there and meet the young man. Tani, exactly how big is he?

Wisher, your first thought was correct. Even a simpleton (trust me I have upon occasion been one) doesn't say that to a date.

 

[Bunnylady]

Seriously. There's awkward, and then there's . . . . that.

I agree with Wisher - this guy has made it pretty plain that the dance is the important thing for him, not the person he's with, so you shouldn't feel any obligation to hang onto him while you are there.I hope you have a great time with him and without him!

 

[Wisher1000]

Yes, I know, but if I stopped with that first thought, I would have to advise her not to go and that would be miserable, sitting at home because you found out too late that your date is a jerk.

I always try to turn the negative into a positive, if at all possible.

DS#1 is a typical 16 year old. He loves to fish, hunt, play PS3, and drive the truck, anywhere. He also likes girls, but hasn't had a girlfriend yet. There are several that he calls friends but none seem interested in dating.

A couple of weeks ago, one of these girl...........friends, called him on Friday and asked him if he was going to the homecoming game that night. He said he wanted to but wasn't sure if he would. She asked if he would take her. He asked my permission to go and take "Katy" and I asked if it was a date, explaining that if he just wanted to go and hang out I wanted him home earlier than the crowd (he's still a fairly new driver.) But if he had a date, they could stay for the end of the game then spend a little time at the local fast food/school hangout before taking her home. He called her and she agreed that it would be a date. He was very excited although he tried not to show it. He listened to all my advice about opening doors for her and meeting her parents when he picked her up at her house. I offered suggestions on what to wear and he actually listened! He looked very handsome, in a casual way, and even said he should wear that style more often. I told him not to try to kiss her goodnight. That either she wouldn't want him to and it would ruin the evening, or she would but would have to agree to a second date to get another chance. He grinned about that. We picked a bouquet of wild flowers and suggested that he tell her he would have done better if he had been given more notice. I did, however, insist that DS#2 ride along with them with instructions to do his own thing at the game and for DS#1 to drop him off after the game before going to the hangout or taking her home.

So far, so good. At her house, he went to the door, met the parents, gave her the flowers and agreed to take her younger brother to the game as well (making points with her mother.) At the game, she left DS#1 and went to find her current crush. He wouldn't talk to her so she got upset and asked her ex-boyfriend to take her home and left DS#1 to take her brother home after the game.

He shrugged it off. I'm still mad. That young lady is on my list. Now, she calls him "Sweety" and "Handsome" and tells him that if he will bring her some coffee, she will give him a dollar. He makes her some coffee, in my thermos, and carries it to her at school.............. Grrrrrrrrrrr!

 

[sourland]

Wisher, I love your parenting style! Yes, there are jerk girls just as there are jerk guys. My son NEVER brought his dates to the house. Now, my daughter's dates had to get by me in all of my inappropriateness.

Kelly dealt well with such behavior until the night the future SIL was scheduled to pick her up. She actually asked me to behave, and I did. After they left I turned to the Princess and said, "That one is trouble." Some how I knew that he was going to take my little girl away. In this day and age he even asked ME if he could marry her - after gushing endlessly about how much he loved her.

 

[Bunnylady]

I'm sorry for your son, Wisher, but it sounds like this girl had other plans in mind from the get-go. Since she's just using him anyway, at least she's paying him for the coffee.

 

[Wisher1000]

Sounds like he's a keeper.

I can't stand to see my boys hurt, physically or mentally. I will not stand by and accept that it is part of life and unavoidable (although it is.) It's the momma bear in me, I guess. I have told all my boys that they have to bring their dates by the house for inspection before they are allowed to go out. I will make one simple comment, "You hurt him, and I'll hurt you." That should take care of the insincere ones...........

 

[sourland]

Wisher, you may be more hard core than me. When our oldest grand daughter 'fell in love', the step grandfather said to me, "Shall we tell this kid that if he hurts her, we will kill him?" I suggested that might be 'overkill'. I, too, have a VERY strong protective instinct for those that I love.