SIS & CPS Vent

[MaggieRae]

That sucks. What a hard decision to have to make.

 

[turney31]

The right thing ,absolutely! She will probably thank you years from now. If not its ok to put toxic people out of your life. Do you think cps will let you have visitation with the kids?

micah

 

[Boyd]

I've been on your side of the coin before... My BIL's X had her kids removed, and BIL was just out of jail (back child support) and my Sis and BIL were living with me. CPS called us to see how BIL was doing, then called BIL and asked him to come pick up the kids.

Apparently the BIL's X was still passed out from crack when police n CPS got there and kicked down the door, they found the 3 year old twins wandering the streets in the snow wearing her jammies and no shoes, the 4 year old who has Cerebral Palsy was eating out of the garbage can, and the house had no working heat (oh yeah, and it wasn't fit to live in)

Would I do that again? Probably not. Although I did what I could to help BIL out, ultimately it almost cost me my relationship with my sister. Turns out he was a horrible dad and it took my sister years to see that. Thank god they only had 1 kid together.

I now am the guy that CPS, DHS or the foster care system calls if they can't find a relative willing or able to. The wife and I sort of work with just teenagers now, but I remember those phone calls that came in from 3am through 7am vividly. When the phone rang that early it was another kid needed a quick exit, or somebody died.

Mama, thinking you did the right thing. If you and hubby even feel the tiniest bit uncomfortable, I wouldn't do it. Let somebody else handle the drama, so you don't draw a line in the sand with the rest of the family.

 

[PineappleMama]

I was boggled to see Sis's cell pop up on the caller ID... calm as a cucumber she tells me that Max's dad (the current BF)'s cousins took them... and she's currently in the store getting some groceries... weird part being that I hear her say "No KK... something something" to the kiddo I hear in the background... now WTH... if they took the kids, big drama, then how the heck is she at the store with you right now.

Of course these are the cousin's she's badmouthed the whole time... for various reasons... including drug use... the pot they had was from them and if it was 'laced since innocent sis certainly didn't know about it *eyeroll* then it came from them... I said "what happens if CPS orders a drug test on them?" -seeing how they're taking custody they're in the loop and you never know right?... she laughed and said it'd serve them right... got all hateful... didn't once say 'that'd suck for the kids"

Once again I can't help but think that it's incredibly disturbing that I'm the normal one of the family.

 

[Boyd]

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if they took the kids from her, she shouldn't be having contact with them till this is sorted out. Time to call CPS back or else loose all further credibility with them.

 

[PineappleMama]

Well given that I tried to call that Natasha woman back... and this was within 30 mins of her calling me... and she refused to answer her phone (even though I know she was still right there since Sis had been talking to her) or both to call me back... doubtful she gives a fig. Plus Sis mentioned that another worker would be taking over the case... that the Natasha person was just the immediate agent and this one would be the from now on... or some such.

Can't get a straight answer from either side which is incredibly frustrating... I mean, she's on drugs so while I hate it at least there's some reason for it... what possible reason is there for someone who claims they dedicated their life (via career choice) to protecting children to ignore people, or flat out lie to them... It's not that freaking hard... it really isn't.

Again, appreciate the thoughts and the place to vent... y'all think protective thoughts for the kids... if even half the stuff Sis said is true then they're no better off at the cousin's house then with her... oh, and a swift kid for me since I, yet again, was too stupid to notice... I was dumb enough to think they were actually doing okay.

 

[Camelot Farms]

Awww ((hugs))

Been there. Done that. Cousin, not sister.
Finally took the step of saying NO. The kids did end up in 'the system' for a while but she finally got her act together!

Hope you have a positive ending to this!!

 

[PineappleMama]

So, Sis called this morning to check on if I'm going for the Girls Night Out thing -see topic in RR Mom's Latest Plan-

Hyper as a 4yo left alone in the candy aisle, and loud, which is not appreciated upon waking, but anyways.

CPS agent came to their apt, snooped, checked, poked, prodded. Said everything looks good. Considering that her housekeeping wasn't in any way the reason the kids were taken I sorta miss the point here but okay.

Then Sis says "Is there any way that while we're doing the classes/etc the kids can be home?"

And caseworker says "I was just going to mention that."

Seriously, if people are allowed to have their kids while they're doing parenting classes, going to NA, taking UAs then why the devil did you take them away and scare the crap out of them in the first place? That's an annoyance right there.

But when you add in that the last time Sis lost KK, when she came to us, she blew off the classes, flunked UA after UA, etc because she was kid free and figured why not party. About 2 weeks short of six weeks (she never let's KK be anywhere 6mos because it might mess up her tax return) she pitched a fit and had them take KK from here (the latest worker asked ME why WE flaked out, so clearly their records have been tampered with) and tossed to people Sis and KK both hadn't seen since they visited the hospital the day KK was born... then their loser son came home again, so KK got the boot from there and went into actual stranger foster care. Some single lady that already had a couple kids, NOT in day care... not sure how the devil she is acceptable but we weren't... but anyways. The agent at the time explained things that Sis had At Minimum one YEAR to get her act together and finish the 8 week program... only after that minimum year would the courts even consider forever removal, but more often than not they extend the deadline... anywhere from 6mos to another full year... kid in a strangers home while parent parties for two YEARS... what the smell is that?

So, historically she does NOT take the court's commands seriously. She's already had to go through all of this once, she CHOSE to blow it off. Just like knowing it would cost her her kids she yet again picked up drugs, and is now whining because she was caught. She outta be thanking her lucky stars she isn't in JAIL, possession, not to mention the outstanding check fraud mess...

But here she is all bubbly (like manic) happy going on about how the kids will be returned next week and that her and Kevin (baby's dad NOT KKs) is willing to go through all this crap for them... though he doesn't send a dime of support to his other TEN offspring... so, really? If EITHER misses two of these classes they start all over. You must take 8 classes, 1 per week for 8 consecutive weeks. But they will use taxpayer dollars to provide free day care so you can attend these classes, your NA groups, etc.

Oh, and bonus AFTER they are done (if ever) then they continue to get free day care on our dime so that they can work... Sis who's never held a job longer than two weeks... in this economy even the most qualified can't find work... yet she seems to think she'll just walk in somewhere and be hired. She doesn't seem at all perturbed by the fact that with CPS providing your kids' care they can keep an eye on you indefinitely... somehow I don't think that's going to be a good thing when she does figure it out.. mainly because she won't figure it out until CPS is again knocking on her door. Not the brightest cherry in the fruitcake.

I just don't understand... with her record, just her CPS records mind you she has shown YEARS of neglect, drug abuse, moving constantly including KK missing weeks of school, failed UAs even after KK taken, disappearing acts... it goes on and on and on... why in the world would anyone even consider giving her kids back until she is DONE with all their requirements... she freakin' disappears people... she doesn't give a fig about your rules... *sigh* it just does not make sense. Maybe if the kids were in a group home, one paid for by them... then maybe I could understand, overcrowding etc... but they're staying at a cousin's house... of course that's the cousin that Sis says she hopes they UA them, they deserve it... so maybe they reckon Sis is the lesser of two evils.

BAH, whole things a mess. Appreciate the window to vent.

 

[redhen]

UGH... This is why CPS needs to be sued more often.... then they'd be more hesitant to keep putting kids back with these druggie parents.
What a bunch of idiots!!!!!!!!!!

 

[MysticScorpio82]

Can you call CPS and voice your concerns about the children going back to their mother BEFORE all the requirements are filled?