Sitting with a cup of coffee. (coffee lovers)

[ocap]

 

[Alaskan]

Yeah for love!

(Now, what are we loving? Hummm? )

 

[kbarnes]

5. I dislike all children...except for my own. I love my own kids....but other kids, we currently have some neighborhood kids that keep showing up at my house (the same ones I am teaching). Barf, barf, barf, ultra barf. luckily they are leaving on the 31st. I know lots of other families love all of the kids showing up and running through their house... But...... BLACH!!!! I am very glad that I live remote, and only have a few close houses...and, as of the 31, we will be back to my kids being the only kids up here.

I completely agree with the exception that right now I don't even like my kids. All over 19 and they all moved back in. Mom has to cook and clean and serve...... oldest is 30. And surprise surprise DH doesn't see anything wrong with it.

Thanks for letting me rant. I think I may need less coffee tomorrow.

 

[vehve]

This coffee is truly needed this morning. I forgot to lock up the flock in their coop, and have been listening to the rooster crow since 4 in the morning.

*Edit* Oh, and if the kids have moved back in, isn't that a great opportunity for them to pay rent by being your own live in maids, cooks and handymen? Perhaps the chicken run could use an extension? Or maybe another coop? And coop cleaning is probably a good way to get the kids to rethink moving back to mommy.

 

[kbarnes]

I got one son that will help. The rest just think they are entitled. Their dad has always spoiled them. All they have to do is say they don't like doing whatever I ask and they don't have to do it. When I get mad DH just says they are having a hard time and I need to give them a little leaway. WRONG they are just lazy now that they are back home.

 

[vehve]

I don't believe in physical punishment for kids, but perhaps a 30 year old could do with a good spanking.

 

[3goodeggs]

Quote: Mom strike!
Just say, 'no.'
What you allow will continue.
Takers take- givers give, and eventually they'll take it all if you give it to them.

The economy is difficult. For them..and YOU TOO!
If they won't help, then don't cook for them, shop for them, wash their sheets, or mow the lawn. Yes, the house will get messy. Keep your little space sane and wait them out. They will crack....or hubby will.

For the sake of the rest of the world, let them learn that there are no free rides. I think too many young adults are so used to mom and dad magically emptiyng the laundry basket and filling the refrigerator that they can not comprehend that THEY are responsible for these things themselves. The sad truth of adulthood is that there is no laundry fiery.

Stick to your guns mom, this will be the hardest best lesson you ever taught them.

rereading this I sound like a really mean mom, but my son thanks me everyday for working so hard to teach him how to do these things himself. He sees his friends oblivious to the realities of life, and he knows it will hit them hard.

And the truth is, it is harder to teach a child to do something themselves than to just do it for them. That is work. Alaskan knows.
I just made "life' part of the home school curricula.

 

[ocap]

Yeah for love!

(Now, what are we loving? Hummm? )

I love the "Truth".

 

[kbarnes]

Mom strike!
 Just say, 'no.'
 What you allow will continue.
Takers take- givers give, and eventually they'll take it all if you give it to them.

The economy is difficult. For them..and YOU TOO! 
If they won't help, then don't cook for them, shop for them, wash their sheets, or mow the lawn. Yes, the house will get messy. Keep your little space sane and wait them out. They will crack....or hubby will.

For the sake of the rest of the world, let them learn that there are no free rides. I think too many young adults are so used to mom and dad magically emptiyng the laundry basket and filling the refrigerator that they can not comprehend that THEY are responsible for these things themselves. The sad truth of adulthood is that there is no laundry fiery.

Stick to your guns mom, this will be the hardest best lesson you ever taught them.

rereading this I sound like a really mean mom, but my son thanks me everyday for working so hard to teach him how to do these things himself. He sees his friends oblivious to the realities of life, and he knows it will hit them hard.

And the truth is, it is harder to teach a child to do something themselves than to just do it for them. That is work. Alaskan knows.
I just made "life' part of the home school curricula.

Yep that's what I'm doing.... spent more time outside with my chickens than inside with the kids. Hopefully hubby will break. He's taking the 30 daughter to work today. Hopefully she will decide that its better to go stay with current bf.

 

[Alaskan]

 

Yeah for love!


(Now, what are we loving? Hummm? )

I love the "Truth".

Which truth? Which one? Hum?

@kbarnes

Totally bites! Rant away! Rant more! I dunno how you deal with that. Maybe you need to say you have had a nervous breakdown, and then maybe you can get away with doing as 3goodeggs suggested.

I knew one lady (but she wasn't married), all of her grown kids moved back home and would not move out or help. She actually said "fine!" And left them! She told the the house was their inheritance, that was all they would get, and she took off and started a new life far far away.