Small town respect.

[tackyrama]

Bummer! What town do you live in? I'm from MN too and live close to a town of about 80 people (Bock MN close to Milaca). I have to agree with you about rudeness. You run into it everywhere now, even in the smallest towns. Our town was not farsighted enough to update their ordinances and as a result now have a nude bar. The neighborhood has really gone downhill fast! Crime, drugs, break-ins, you name it. I hate to say it but I now live in a high crime area. I have been fighting a war with snow-mobilers and 4-wheelers ever since I moved where I am now. They are mostly teenagers and young males with nothing better to do than terrorize the countryside. I mean it! You would not believe the kind of trouble and threats I have had to put up with and the cops are powerless to do anything. I'm with ya cuz I've been there.

 

[Brad7558]

Henry'schickens :

Sorry to hear what you are going through. Favortism is seen everywhere. Not just small towns. It seems like it because it is a 'small town' and everyone knows everyone. Getting into a fight whether you provoked or not may have already labeled you as a 'trouble maker'. Couldn't you have just walked away from it? One fight is news for several days and is forgotten but 2 fights? Come on. I live outside of the city limits (small town) and our family makes a point to 'get along' with everyone. We don't have to like them but respect them they way we want to be respected. It makes us the better person. Just my 2 cents worth. Good luck in the future.

I did walk away. Both times. They do not like outsiders here.​

 

[farmerlor]

I grew up in a little tiny town on the Minnesota Iowa border and people (kids especially) just were nicer there than in other towns I've lived in. We knew if we did something, somebody's Mom was going to tell our Mom and there would be all kinds of trouble. You just didn't mess up in school because the principal's wife worked at the grocery store and she was going to see your big sister later when she came into work. I missed that so much that I moved into this tiny, rural community where we try to help each other and everyone is friendly. You just don't race past someone on the road and flip them off because it might be your neighbor!

 

[AllChookUp]

Brad -

I'm from a very small town in central MN, about 1,700 people. You'd know it if I told you. Near Alexandria.

I tell my folks all the time I could never move back there, because everyone thinks my life is their business. I think there is a lot of "respect" for people there, but everyone is so nosy & gossipy. Probably because there's nothing else to occupy their minds.

Now I live out in the country north of St. Paul, near a town of about 14,000. Our plots are all 10 acres, so no one is right on top of anyone else. The neighbors are all respectful and very friendly, but we all keep to ourselves. I like it that way.

Sorry to hear about your situation. I hope it improves.

 

[Brad7558]

tackyrama,
That's cool you said that I used to know some people up in Coates who dealt with the same thing. With the strip clup.

 

[ScoobyRoo]

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I did walk away. Both times. They do not like outsiders here.

When we moved here 20yrs ago, we felt like outsiders too. Now we have kids and make a point to get involved with the school and community and now we are 'one of the good ol neighbors'. If you don't have kids (that seems to help alot ) volunteer in some service and help out. Sometimes they are thinking the same way we are meaning."City people moving here think they are all that", trying to get paved roads, want cable TV, the list goes on. Don't give up yet if you plan on staying there indefinitely. It will get better. Remember regardless how they act treat them the way you want to be treated. Unless self defense of course. Again good luck

 

[bheila]

I'm sorry that there are sucky people out there. My husband grew up in a very small town in Minnesota(Ada) with 125 people and he wants to move back someday. I too would love to move there. No matter where you are there will always be rude people. You just have to be the bigger person and look past them.

 

[Brad7558]

I really want to be in a small place and enjoy the people around me. When I first moved here, it turned out the guy who lived across the street graduated with my sister (much younger). So I figured after the things he told me he went though maybe things had changed. Nope. Started A job in Rochester and heard things from people who didn't live here but came here for a night out and the same things happened. Most of these people are family people.

 

[Amyable]

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Yeah, it's really expanding. DH has lived here ~16 years and always points out subdivisions and sprawl that wasn't there 5 years ago. Appleton, Menasha, Neenah, Darboy, Grand Chute all run together - only the signs let you know you're in the next town. It's a nice area to live, though. City conveniences but with enough little surrounding towns to live in. We're selling our house and trying to buy a farmette in Shiocton. We'll be much happier then!

There really are bad apples in every town, some have more than others, and some towns are mostly rotten apples! Maybe they seek each other out?

 

[Brad7558]

This will be my last post on this. I may not like where I live but I will deal with it. There are a lot of good people here, but at the same time if I want to take my wife out at night forget it. I won't even let her stop at any of the gas stations with me after 2 am. Mainly because I'm a guy and I can't let things go. Yes 2 am I said. I'm a night owl most of the time.
Last night was a good night for that. I helped a girl I know at the gas station run some drunk kids out.

Anyway this rant is over I hope everyone is well. Time for this owl to sit in the tree for a few hours.