So angry - MIL "weeded" my garden! RANT!

[Reinbeau]

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I've been reading all the replies and you beat me to it. He needs to grow a set and tell his mother to leave 'our' (yours and his) property alone. She needs to understand that he's married to you and he supports you 100%. Anything less are apron strings that will never, ever be cut.

I am so happy my MIL lives so far away (800 miles in either home). We see her twice a year at the most. I can take a day of her, any more and I get jiggy!

Edited to add: Rachel, that's so sad. You definitely don't prune a climber down to two sticks

 

[Robin'sBrood]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

MIL thought this was a stupid idea. (My yard who cares anyway?) So while we were gone she "weeded" it. I came home to nice BARE strips of soil between my rows of corn and sunflowers. Some of the suns are going to tip over because the supporting vines and soil around their base are gone! Hubby keeps telling me that she means well, but I get tired of her doing whatever she wants and having to suck it up because she means well!

UGH! OK I will settle down now and work it out. Thanks for letting me rant!

I'm sorry, but

your story makes one person come to mind...

Loved that show! If you watched it, you know what I'm talking about.

(Really sorry about your yard!)​

 

[Small Town Girl]

Personally, I really like Jenn's suggestion about LOTS of snakes in the yard!!! Oh, and by the way, having grown up in the country, I know that it IS possible for those pesky snakes to occasionally get in the house. Just sayin'.......

 

[SpottedCrow]

My MIL knows not to touch ANYTHING in my house...

I would've been PO'd too. I love anything green and growing in my yard...I am the only witch EVER with a black thumb...

DH always wants to cut back things...he hasn't touched my hawthorn yet though...My inkberry, blackberries, and thistles, he wants gone, but they're ALL MINE!!!

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

See you guys are SOOO funny! That's why I come rant here!

Once dh got furious with his mother over something else she did and told her the come on my land thing and went outside carrying his shotgun! She behaved for quite a while!!

This latest infraction really peeved me no end, but it sent dh over the edge! No worries on apron strings or the "set"! The boys are where they need to be!

We live next door

to his parents and it ONLY works because he is very firm with them! But, he cannot control everything they do so I don't blame him for her nutty behavior.....

While was out getting balloons for my daughter's first birthday she iced my cake!! I just - right in front of her - scraped it all off and decorated it as I had planned!

I do love the idea of telling her NEVER clean my chicken coop!!

You guys are great!

 

[The Chicken Lady]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

While was out getting balloons for my daughter's first birthday she iced my cake!! I just - right in front of her - scraped it all off and decorated it as I had planned!

OMG, you are awesome!

That took GUTS, girl! Way to go!​

 

[Reinbeau]

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OMG, you are awesome!

That took GUTS, girl! Way to go!

It surely did! Good for you, you go, girl. And I'm glad to hear that hubby is behind you 100%. It sounds as though he needs that shotgun to scare the you know what out of her once in awhile! She's a cheeky thing. But then again, as my sister always says about our mother, to know her is to love her

 

[Windy Ridge]

Just in defense of in-laws out there, they're not all bad! I'm really lucky (and can't believe I'm the only one!). I get excited when I know they're coming over. They live less than an hour away--used to be closer, but we moved out of town. They're fun to hang out with, and they make me laugh, both of them.

They've helped so much around here, it's really amazing. In fact, his dad helped me build my first chicken coop, helped fix our water problem (he's a plumber), installed a thermostat on our gas fireplace, put in windows, REMOVED windows, graded the driveway and had just generally been wonderful, letting us borrow his pickup for hay and so forth. I love his mom. She brings raspberry jam over for us, and I give her blackberry or peach.

Of course, the key is that if we asked them not to do something, it would simply never occur to them to do it anyway. I guess they view their son (and me) as adults. Maybe people just can't let go sometimes... ? Old habits of control are hard to break... ? I dunno. I hope I'll be as a good mother in law as mine is, though. (Of course, my daughter is only 11... )

 

[BettyR]

I am the MIL and I would never in a million years touch anything that belonged to one of my children unless they asked me to.

I mind my own business; I raised my kids to think for themselves and make their own decisions. I was raised the same way, my father passed when I was a teenager but my mom was always very picky about not sticking her nose into our business.

The whole purpose of childhood is to learn to live un-aided by your parents, if I did anything to impede that progression I would be harming my children.

I had wonderful in laws as well; sadly they are no longer with us. I loved them with all my heart and I miss them so much I can’t tell you. I would give anything to be able to spend another day with them.

 

[DrakeMaiden]

I didn't really need to read the details even to say . . .

I hear you, NO ONE WEEDS MY GARDEN BUT ME!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah, I'm kinda weird about what I want to keep and what I want gone, but mostly about WHEN it is best to do the weeding.

Sorry. I totally understand you had good reason to not want it weeded.