So....talk about.....CANCER SUPPORT THREAD !!

[3goodeggs]

Oh Kristy. I wondered where you had been. I was hoping you were off on wonderful adventures.
I am sorry for your loss, and the mire your family is in. It seems to be the adage, "when it rains, it pours" is applying to you and your family right now. Hang tough. Take care of yourself so you can care for them.

Did you get the house completed?
You were already buried with obligations before. My thoughts are with you.

 

[KristyHall]

Thanks. Unfortunately no adventures. The world came down around us for a while. It turns out my step father's life insurance was voided on a technicality, it took two months for mom to get her pension too. At the same time of his illness and death my personally life imploded. A dear friend and I stopped talking and I went through a rough break up.Shortly after his passing, mom fell and shattered her leg and had to have surgery. She was hospitalized for weeks. She kept having to return with pneumonia. Because of the lack of life insurance, Mom had to give back their truck and his Harley Davidson motorcycle.

The legal battle over the land continued. Mediation was yesterday. We had to appear even though mom is so unwell she kept falling asleep in her wheel chair during the meeting. We were there from 9 AM until 4 PM. No meals. It was very complicated but the short story of it is my parents were lied to when the land was sold to them, and while it was acknowledged the only way for mom to get her money back would involve a trial and it could take yet another ten years and way more money than the land was worth. In the end we lost the farm. We have to move in six months. The house never got built, and our savings were wiped out between the court cases and the illnesses, even with medical insurance. Despite this there is some sense of relief. The fighting was wearing on us. The harassment from the man who fraudulently sold the land to my parents was unbearable. The threats, the constant anxiety almost broke us. But it's over now at least. We can start over.

Meanwhile the family dynamics changed greatly. My sister and I grew closer when we were never close before, and my mother and I grew apart only to be repaired and grow close again. Some family members lost their ever loving minds, while others grew stronger. My own health took a nose dive and I had a real scare from it. It encouraged me to take control of my own life. I developed a back bone with the people close to me and started telling people exactly how I felt. I changed my eating, made time for the gym. I'm stronger and healthier than I have been in a long time because of that. I have also learned just how amazing some of my friends are. They came together when I really needed it. ONe friend who now lives 2,000 miles away booked a trip down here the moment he heard my step father died. He took me to another friend's house for a weekend where they forced me to sit and relax. Everytime I tried to get up to do something they refilled my wine glass and shoved chocolate into my hand, LOL. Mom was in the hospital during this time so I didn't have to worry about leaving her alone at the house.

Still. We're marked. We're all different and the family dynamics will never be the same. We are all noticeably different. I am not sure if it is for good or bad.

 

[3goodeggs]

" Everytime I tried to get up to do something they refilled my wine glass and shoved chocolate into my hand, LOL."

Good friends!
I am glad you grew closer to some family members.
My family ordeal was awful and I did not grow closer to anyone, yet, I also grew a backbone and' quit crossing oceans for people who wouldn't jump a puddle' for me.

Today as I was leaving the barn I realized how nice my life is without drama.
I have had an eternity's worth. So have you. I am glad you are able to make changes.

 

[KristyHall]

" Everytime I tried to get up to do something they refilled my wine glass and shoved chocolate into my hand, LOL."

Good friends!
I am glad you grew closer to some family members.
My family ordeal was awful and I did not grow closer to anyone, yet, I also grew a backbone and' quit crossing oceans for people who wouldn't jump a puddle' for me.

Today as I was leaving the barn I realized how nice my life is without drama.
I have had an eternity's worth. So have you. I am glad you are able to make changes.

Amazing friends. I am blessed. Though I did gain weight that weekend. But then, wine, chocolate, and dumb movies with friends is worth it. I agree with you about the drama. I found I feel better since I have started setting boundaries with family.

 

[chickensnewtome]

So five months since Mom passed, I found out that my Mom's sister passed from breast cancer a month before my mom and 2 months ago I found a lump in my left breast. Although I am only 26 I know that cancer does not discriminate. So in between nursing school and moving my Dad in, I now have this to worry about. Just when I think I can't take any more stress, God proves me wrong. I am scheduled for an appointment at a free health clinic and then hopefully a mamogram. The scary part about the lump is that it doesn't hurt. Prayers are much needed, considering I haven't told family.


I am glad to hear the good stories and my prayers are with all of you. Keep your heads up high!

 

[newfoundland]

Bless you, how hard it is for you at the moment. You are absolutely right to get it checked out straight away. You need to be certain that it is an innocent lump, which it is most likely to be. you wil be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[3goodeggs]

You are in my prayers. . Chances are it is a cyst or fibroid, but is not good on your worry glands either way. I will be thinking about you, so fill us in when you know something.

 

[KristyHall]

So five months since Mom passed, I found out that my Mom's sister passed from breast cancer a month before my mom and 2 months ago I found a lump in my left breast. Although I am only 26 I know that cancer does not discriminate. So in between nursing school and moving my Dad in, I now have this to worry about. Just when I think I can't take any more stress, God proves me wrong. I am scheduled for an appointment at a free health clinic and then hopefully a mamogram. The scary part about the lump is that it doesn't hurt. Prayers are much needed, considering I haven't told family.


I am glad to hear the good stories and my prayers are with all of you. Keep your heads up high!

I am so sorry to hear about your struggles You have so much on you, especially being so young. A friend once said to me "They say God only sends you what you can handle. He must think I'm a super woman" It is so true and it sounds like the sentament fits you. You are in my thoughts. Hopefully it will not be cancer, and if it is, let us pray it is an easily treatable sort.

 

[KristyHall]

Woo! Tests came back, I do not have tumors on my thyroid! I'm so happy. I do have a low thyroid, and high cholesterol. I have been tracking what I eat and the doctor agreed the weight gain is mostly from the thyroid and stress. I have cut back on chocolate though, lol. The cholesterol comes from the low thyroid. I showed him my diet. Besides eggs, I eat mostly low cholesterol foods and very little red meat. He said that peopel with a low thyroid often has problems with cholesterol. I have been put on thyroid hormones and cholesterol meds, and already I am feeling so much better, and the weight is coming off much easier. I dropped ten pounds in 3 weeks and I am no longer exhausted after just a few minutes of exercise. This is also helping with my emotions. I was depressed with the sudden weight gain, and I feel vindicated that much of it was coming from something medical. Still, I have been more careful about what I eat and making time for the gym. If only for one reason, it would be that it just makes me feel better. I will never get rid of the stretch marks from teh rapid weight gain, but I can at least get back my energy and the sense of control over my life.

 

[chickisoup]

Woo! Tests came back, I do not have tumors on my thyroid! I'm so happy. I do have a low thyroid, and high cholesterol. I have been tracking what I eat and the doctor agreed the weight gain is mostly from the thyroid and stress. I have cut back on chocolate though, lol. The cholesterol comes from the low thyroid. I showed him my diet. Besides eggs, I eat mostly low cholesterol foods and very little red meat. He said that peopel with a low thyroid often has problems with cholesterol. I have been put on thyroid hormones and cholesterol meds, and already I am feeling so much better, and the weight is coming off much easier. I dropped ten pounds in 3 weeks and I am no longer exhausted after just a few minutes of exercise. This is also helping with my emotions. I was depressed with the sudden weight gain, and I feel vindicated that much of it was coming from something medical. Still, I have been more careful about what I eat and making time for the gym. If only for one reason, it would be that it just makes me feel better. I will never get rid of the stretch marks from teh rapid weight gain, but I can at least get back my energy and the sense of control over my life.

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