So when SHOULD a man cry? Experiences?

[PepsNick]

I cry all the time. I'm not 18 yet lol, but I don't think that's going to change, since some people are natrually emotional.

 

[bkreugar]

Married 19 years here, Cried when his grandma died, cried happy tears when I told him I was pregnant the first time (tears of joy), and most recently cried with me when we had to put down my 21 yr old arab mare. HE had helped me break her, Had helped me buy her back after I sold her and watched same mare babysit my daughter. Was really suprised to see him cry over that, as he is NOT a horsey guy. But he still helped with arrangements about said mare. Still tears up when watching video DD made of said mare. Mare was the background of our life.

He is NOT a sensitive guy. And is not found of my tears either. I tease him and say one of the reasons he ended up WITH me is I don;t cry hardly ever. In 19 years I have cried maybe 5 times. ANd when I DO~ watch out cuz he is out for blood, if he can pinpoint a person responsible.

 

[StarStruck203]

i think its fine for a guy to cry as long as his emotions are true.

ill tell you when a guy should not cry though - when he is faking it.
i once broke up with this guy and he started crying.. faker than anything. not only that, he started to have 'heart palputations' or whatever they are.. and then, literaly 20 seconds later (after i had walked away) i saw him again and he was walking through the gym of school - no tears, and walking like nothing had happened.

what the heck. lol just made me realize even more how he was not the guy for me. lol

 

[Elite Silkies]

Real Men Cry! I feel sorry for those men who can't express their feelings because they were told they weren't suppose to cry.

 

[Nifty-Chicken]

I've become way more inclined to shed a tear as I've gotten older, more so during "warm fuzzy" moments in movies... especially around families and children.

Just last night I was watching "Hook" with each of my beautiful daughters on either side, cuddling with me on the couch. I'd seen the movie a bunch of times in the past and simply enjoyed it. But last night, there were a bunch of moments where I felt the tears coming during the parts where the kids in the movie were really expressing their love for their dad.

Usually just tears... not "crying". That said, about 6 years ago I had to take my yellow lab into the vet to have him put down after 15 years of being my best buddy. Being there with him was literally the worst experience of my life, and I was a total mess... seriously balling. When I left I even had to pull over on the freeway.

 

[key west chick]

DH teared up when his mom left his dad many years ago. He had just gotten home from talking to his dad, buried his head in my chest, and just held me for a few minutes. When he let me go, my shirt was damp. Never saw a tear but I know they were there.

 

[kelseygirl707]

My husband is a Cryer, he will hate me for telling everybody. But Movies, and emotions get him good, he's just sensitive. We just watched the new "Tangled" movie yesterday, and he couldn't get through it without crying, although he tries to hide it, but I know the signs, so all I have to do is grab his hand, and he does this nervous cry giggle.

 

[annaraven]

Emotional display rules vary by culture so much. For example, in the US, "excited" (high arousal) happy states are more valued culturally, and being happy is almost unrecognized unless you are "excited" and happy, whereas in many Asian countries, "calm" is much more highly valued, so calm and happy is more commonly recognized, and Americans are viewed as far too excitable (in good and bad sense).

On a personal level: my husband is Italian. Born and bred in Italy. He emotes more than any man I've ever seen. He cries easily. More easily than anyone I've ever seen. But he's also sweet and romantic and, how to put this... virile. So, I'm all for expressive men. I'd far rather be with one who's expressive than one who holds it all in and you never know what/whether they are feeling about something. I understand that's not everyone's preference of course.

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

My husband thinks that I believe that men shouldn't cry. Not true. My father rarely cried, and when he did, that was a sign that things were seriously wrong... so when a man cries, it makes me scared, not scared of the tears, but scared of the reasons... I cry all the time. I think I cry more than anyone I know. I cry when I'm hurt, or sad, or mad, or afraid, or frustrated.... or happy... I cry about as much as my 5 year old daughter, more than my 7 year old son, and less than my 3 year old DD... I have a hair trigger for my tears... DH thinks it's funny.

 

[Nekhebet]

I'm not a crier. I suppose I cry more often than some of the people on this thread, but I definitely don't bawl, and average I'd say that I probably cry...once a year.

My husband I've been with for five years, and I've seen him cry exactly 1.5 times. Once when he felt that I implied that I was stuck with him, and once when his grandfather died.

It's funny...I do understand that expression of emotion is regulated by culture, and that it is healthy for men to express their emotions....but at the same time, I feel that if a guy I was with was always crying about the situation he was in, I'd lose a lot of respect for him personally.