So would you or wouldn't you?

[chickened]

Unless your spouses all died on you (hope not) after which one did you come to this conclusion?

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[gryeyes]

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Actually, I always practiced it. My spouses did not. Hence their being "former" spouses.

 

[Nicole01]

Hmmmm..... I only had 5 chicks and Hubby said absolutely NO MORE!!! I didn't listen to that, so I went ahead to the farm store and now I have 3 more. I really love my SS. She is one of the sweetest birds I have towards me and the flock mates.

 

[Nicole01]

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Get at least 2. It's a lot less stressful with the integration. If you have to seperate them, the newcomer would be very unhappy without another chick and will chip very loudly. By having 2, they keep each other company.

 

[KristyHall]

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i'd rather get marital advice from grey eyes who has experienced and learned from troubles and mistakes than form someone who refers to his wife as a possession

 

[Havsom Morpork]

What kind of relationship is it when you need to have permission for everything. As long as it's not directly affecting her, and it's less than or equal to what you had in the first place, I don't see an issue. I would mention it to her and let her know what your plan is, but make it as a statement, not as a question.

 

[gryeyes]

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Bingo.

 

[KristyHall]

unless she is being forced to care for the birds, or it cuts into money you either do not have or that you spend way more on your chicken keeping then she spend son her interests (she could be resentful if this is how she feels) or that she has an allergy to them, then I do not see the problem. How ever I do see a problem with sneaking behind her back.
Talk to her. find out why she doesn't want more birds. Talk it out. and LISTEN don't just argue with her about it. She may just want to feel heard.

Offer to get her involved and let her help you pick the birds out if she is feeling left out.

If she has a legitimate problem such as allergies, or that it is money you can not afford or that you are spending more on yourself out of the household money than she gets to spend on herself and the kids, then you need to reconsider getting the birds. Also remember that her objections are legitimate to her so do not dismiss or belittle her feelings.

But I repeat do not sneak behind her back. When trust is broken it may never return and it will only add to the resentment.

 

[WickedNerd]

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I agree with Kristy. You don't want to just go ahead and do it. See what the reasoning is and compromise with her. Honor each others requests while seeking what it is you need. Need, not want.

My ex-husband went and did things behind my back without my knowledge or consent and it just severely ticked me off at him. It definitely contributed to our falling out and divorce.

 

[fuzziebutt]

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I sooo agree. A chicken isn't worth that. BUT, take her with you when you look at them...