So would you or wouldn't you?

The bird itself is in immaterial. One chicken more or less
doesn't really matter.

The faith you wife can have in you should matter a great
deal. Why not respect her enough to discuss the purchase
with her before you go behind her back?

Talk it out BEFORE hurting her feelings.
 
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You are getting rid of three, so please get two, that way she won't be the only newbie, and will have a friend to pal around with.....

It's still less!
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I bought 10 pullets on 07/06/11 and havent told my DW although she doest go to the chicken house that much she does go from time to time but only with me. My plan is to act like they were here all along.
 
well my mom hates me spending money on chickens... or throws a fit when i talk about getting another. SOOO


I make the plans to by them get all the plans set up myself. Then before we (me & my dad) go i am like "MOM were going to get more chickens" and then run out the door like speedy gonzoles
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I would not add just one new bird to the flock. IMO it isn't fair to the bird as she will have to fight for her position in the flock and won't have a "buddy" while she is doing so. In my experience, SS are gentle birds who are usually low in the pecking order anyway and I'm afraid just one new bird will be picked on mercilessly. At the least you should consider getting two so at least they can hang out together if they are not accepted right away.

As for doing it despite your DW's wishes.....I wouldn't. Wait and talk to her and argue your case, but if you do it knowing she's against the idea you are not only in the wrong but inviting her to do things behind your back and against your wishes in the future. That doesn't sound real healthy. Honesty, openness and trust cannot be undervalued if you want a successful, long-term relationship.
 
Not having a spouse or significant other, the question of would you or wouldn't you doesn't even apply to me. I'd get 'em.

HOWEVER, having BEEN a spouse three times previously, I do have an opinion on how to handle the situation in which the OP finds himself:

Communication is everything in a relationship. A conversation - even one way - like this might be appropriate:

"Honey, I know you don't want me to get any more chickens, but I just got rid of 3 and I really want to add Speckled Sussex to my flock. So, I'm going to get a couple of them - the flock won't be any larger than it was before. I hope you understand how this is important to me, even though it's "just chickens." You'll see how pretty they are and they are good layers, too. See you in a bit....." and head out to go get your chickens.

Upon your return, be prepared to discuss the matter further.
 

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