Sometimes things get too much - I want to resign!

[LiLRedCV]

I'm sorry.

While I can't even begin to phantom the difficulties you're experiencing, I can imagine them to a lesser degree as our family also has a need.

Speaking from first hand, personal knowledge: Truly, getting help for those who need it here in the states isn't much better despite what many may indicate here! Yes, the programs are out there, but a lot of the funds used for these programs have been severely cut over the years with more coming and no end in site! There are waiting lists, upon waiting lists for these services - adult and child(ren) alike.

Our public school systems are overburdened with special needs students and our health insurance companies merely pay a pittance (if anything at all!) for outside services to help them have a better life.

The thought of reliable home health care is but a pipe dream.

But we do what we can, with what we have, and make it work - no matter how unconventional it may be. It's exhausting work, no doubt, and there are plenty of times we want to throw up our hands and say, "I GIVE UP!" But we don't. No matter how frustrating it may be. No matter how overwhelming it becomes. We keep going. We keep doing what is necessary to see our loved ones through.

again... Know that while you may feel alone and overwhelmed - there are others out there, across the globe, experiencing the same things and are here to listen when you need them.

 

[redhen]

You NEED some help..
I just cant fathom that over there you guys cant get help for a child like yours?? It boggles my mind..

So sorry..

 

[debilorrah]

Oh man, your original post just grabbed my heart. My boss has an adult child who is at the far end of Aspergers, a form of autism. While I do not personally deal with a child like that, I do see his pain when incidents happen. His son once broke his arm. I am so sorry you are going through all this, and while I have no words of wisdom I can give you a

and let you know that you are not alone. You are not the only parent of an adult disabled child and I really pray you can find some support.

 

[BorderKelpie]

I, too, can only offer a heartfelt

If you were in the states, I would take you for a day of eating nothing but desserts and being in general just silly. You deserve the fun and need a break. I wish I could help, I really, really do.

THank you for reminding me how blessed I am. I wish you all the best and pray you get the help you so need.

Hang in there, you are obviously a strong and compassionate individual. You should be proud of what you have achieved, even if it feels to you that it isn't enough. You have accomplished much. There are so many people that have abandoned or abused their unchallanged children, but you made the commitment and sacrifices to do what needed to be done. You are a person to be admired and respected.

 

[oesdog]

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Thanks for that, I don;t feel like I am at all good sometimes when I get cross and upset at the situation. I wish my boy was fixed and it breaks my heart to see other kids all grown up and doing stuff and they are strong and well and then I look at Dan and have to bite my lip. Then I give myself a big kick and say it could be worse: -
All those folk who want kids and never have them or those poor folk who have terminally ill kids that nothing can help, or those poor mothers who have "normal" healthy kids who get ill or injured later in life and they have known a normal child, or those poor parents who are losing their kids everyday in conflict round the world - our poor boys comming home in boxes from Afganistan! Yes I need a well good kick up the rear sometimes!

- I would pass on the day out trip eating desserts - awwwww sorry I am on a forever diet!

I would go if you got me RABBIT FOOD

Oesdog - thanx for helping me to see how lucky I am.

 

[BorderKelpie]

See, see what I mean?

You do see the good in your life - you're awesome. Every body gets frustrated and upset at times. Just means you're human, not that you're bad.

(and FWIW, American chocolate covered cheesecake calories don't stick to sweet, brave foreigners....)
but, if you insist - chocolate covered salad. yumm?

 

[turney31]

Have you tried horseback riding therapy? I have a friend whose son did not qualify for the program, so she did it herself... That is how we met, I had a saddle for sale. Before you knew it she had an old patient horse...donated saddle

and Matthew (13) responded in an astonishing manner. Hugs!

 

[Sjisty]

I can't even imagine your life. Of course, you love your children, but life must be so difficult for you all! I have no answers, just my best wishes.

 

[Kassaundra]

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Neither does Ben and Jerry's (esp New York Super chunk fudge)

 

[ChickInDelight]

When I am feeling sorry for myself, I find I never have to look far to find a person in far worse need.

I love the idea of horseback riding therapy. It is popular in my area (Middleburg VA - horse capitol of the states). Folks here liken the area to England and many foxhunters take trips to hunt in Ireland.

Anyway, horses are magical. They work wonders. Many people benefit emotionally when they learn to work with those big, noble beasts. They develop confidence, teamwork, mastery, sensitivity, and control. Imagine a frustrated person that learns to control a huge animal! Therapy beyond chickens.

Many of us are thinking of you and sending you positive energy.