Hi, Without disclosing uncomfortable information, lets just say I grew up in an abusive household. The skills I learned to deal with stress are wrong, just wrong, and although these things invade my mind when I get stressed & upset, I know better than to DO any of them. I've done pretty well to learn to be sane & balanced, but still in my mid 30's I have little to no stress coping skills. Most of my stresses are family related right now, but I'm not stupid enough to think that when the kid moves out, that everything will be all better. DH drives me nuts sometimes too. I'm quick to get angry & totally upset beyond reason. Currently my skillset is probably equal to a 7 or 8 year old (embarassing I know) right down to mild temper tantrums, walking away, crying, wanting to bang my head into the wall until.... So... I turn to you, thousands of you to ask & learn from. HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH STRESS??? This year I came down with Shingles, supposedly due to stress. My moods & attitude this year is borderline depressed and frankly losing hope that things will ever get any better!!! I know this is all in my head, because my logical side reminds me that Life is what you make of it! So how do you deal with stress? Am I the only one who wants to strangle someone sometimes? Just lash out violently? Sometimes it takes me more than a few hours to "get over myself" and often times I carry the stress with me for days on end, thereby ruining whatever wonderful moments could happen if my mood was stable. I used to dance, skydive, tunnelfly, sing/perform, read, and be very social. My current life doesn't allow for any of that at all, and so everything that used to be really important and wonderful is now gone gone gone. My only human exposure is DH & DD and I try to remind them that they are the only humans I ever see or SPEAK to, but that doesn't really help them 'behave' or sympathize since they are both out in the world every day and just don't understand. I'm trying to pick up a few hobbies, keep myself busy etc but frankly it just feels like MORE WORK, and they stress me out even more! Tips & advice to cope with normal everyday stresses is very much appreciated and desperately needed.