stupid assumptions people make about others

[sourland]

@Dani4Hedgies, friends are the family that we make for ourselves.

 

[Dani4Hedgies]

yep exactly and I have a ton of friends both here and online and in person who are our "true" family and in fact are helping me plan a huge Coming out party for my daughter and there are no words enough to thank everyone for the out pouring of love and support and I feel bad for my blood family because they will never have this and that is their loss.

 

[Sunshine Flock]

I’ve been seeing this psychiatrist for the past 6 years and I’m sure he knows what he’s doing. But even when I tell my teachers this, some of them are like “maybe you should ask him again”. I’m the one who is on the medication. I know when I’m distracted. I can appear distracted and still say over and understand the material that my teacher just taught. I also had a teacher tell me that having ADHD was an excuse for being lazy. I’m sorry but God made me this way and I wouldn’t trade my ADHD for anything. It’s helped me in sports and in school as I can grasp lessons faster than my peers.

I tell people all the time that the word LAZY is a lazy word. It's negative, it labels, and it unfairly boxes people into a squishy little space that doesn't at all allow for the truth of what's causing their inactivity and distractedness and not getting things done.

Lazy is a copout word used to knock people down.

 

[IdyllwildAcres]

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This can be hard to handle for some, but I am so thankful for her that you are supporting her through this. Even as a gay man it took me more than half my lifetime to be more understanding of transgender people. As a younger man I just did not get it, now I realize that I do not need to understand it or approve or judge, it is not about me after all. This is real for your daughter. I would suggest not slamming doors on anyone in the family who needs more time, keep the door cracked open just a bit.

Gary[/QUOTE]

Gary,
I wish I could however my blood family has proven that they are only white or black they either accept it or they never do, I have been a pagan living an open marriage poly life for over 20 years and every chance my blood family gets they still insult and hurt me over it. I only stayed in contact with them because they were blood family to our son and they treated him right and wanted to be involved in his life now that he is living as a she they are changing that and yep I'm a mama bear and I will protect my daughter from having to live with that.[/QUOTE]


Good for you Mama Bear

Gary

 

[Dani4Hedgies]

Thank you Gary!!!!

 

[Chickassan]

I think you look like a pixie.

Here, let me describe a gay woman for you:

Tall, thin, flat chested, shaves her hair to a mere half an inch long, NO makeup, prone to forested legs and other body parts, loves Ellen DeGeneres, loves rainbows.

Yep? Nope. I just described myself.

When I started clearcutting my hair five years ago, my mom was so angry she would turn her nose up in disgust every time I made eye contact with her. My dad wrote a poem called "My Daughter the It."

I'm a forty-seven year old It, people. And to prove my itness to you, a three year old in a sparkle tutu and princess shirt turned around at the grocery store a few years ago and asked me, rather loudly, "Are you a boy?"

I love how we educate children to think all women have Barbie boobs and wear makeup and fairy princess outfits.

Does this look like a boy to you, or does she look like someone who is merely different and maybe dances to her own crafty little tune in the woods?

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[Sunshine Flock]

I think you look like a pixie.

I doused that photo with a filter. I think in person I'm starting to look like a washed up Muppet. But thank you!!

 

[igorsMistress]

I used to wear my hair super short, I have a strong, type a personality and I'm a little overweight. I'm also a big girl up top. I've been asked if I'm a lesbian, rumors have gone around at work. I've been called a B because I don't associate with people from work, and apparently I sleep around and my boobs are fake. I laugh. I could care less what anyone thinks of me. They're nothing, strangers.
I love me, my husband and kids love me. I'm good. It has taken many years and a lot of tears to get to this point. I've come to realize that the gossip mongers and name callers have low self esteem so they put others down. That's not about me it's their problem.
To all!

 

[Chickassan]

I've come to accept you're not ever going to make everyone happy, it's just not possible especially people who are deeply unhappy themselves. You can however keep yourself happy and that's the secret to drawing others like yourself to you and keeping those nitpickers away. It's really no fun picking on a content person, a total waste of time and energy.

 

[Mraya]

I hope I am saying this correctly....

A family member is just someone who is related to you it does not does not automatically
make them your friend or even someone who is looking out for your best intentions.

Some people justify saying and doing anything they want because they are "family" and most people put up with it because they are "family".

Why?

I think family should be like your friends and if they are not cut them lose.

If someone is not being a positive influence in your live why do you need them and why do you need to listen to them.

Nobody can make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them.