I have 2 kids, who just turned 3 and 5. Should I take them to their great grandma's funeral and/or visitiation? The visitiation will be open casket. The funeral mass will have the casket in church, not open then we will proceed to the cemetary. My kids have never been to a cemetary. Now, I know "it depends", but here's some background: we had a chicken die last year (when she was barely over 4) and my daughter got upset. But not hysterical upset. But kind of crying, then immediately the tears would stop then she'd ask questions. "What are we going to do with it?" 'Is she happy or sad now?' Where will the chicken go? Stuff like that most kids ask. So I had her watch and I buried the chicken and explained things. She has since seen us bury lots of critters found dead around our property and varmints we trapped. No big deal to her now. She's even seen some varmints shot and witnessed the whole thing. She's helped clean a fish. A little squeamy there, but not too bad. So, I think she "gets" death. It'd be easiest not to take her, but although not real close to her great grandma, she does know her. My 3 year old I think I'd just leave home. Any help is appreciated.