Teenagers and rules??

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

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Do YOUR parents talk directly to THEIR parents?? I have to assume these girls talked to their parents, but there was no adult to adult.....

 

[eenie114]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

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Do YOUR parents talk directly to THEIR parents?? I have to assume these girls talked to their parents, but there was no adult to adult.....

Seems to me that wouldn't matter too much, as long as the teens are trustworthy.

Girl 1: Can Girl 2 come over?

Parent 1: If her mom says it's okay.

Girl 1 to Girl 2: Ask your mom.

Girl 2: Can I go to Girl 1's house?

Parent 2: Sure.

Girl 2: Yeah, I can come.​

 

[BrattishTaz]

Unfortunately this happens alot. I have had parents just dump their kids off (my girls had permission to have them over) in my driveway without ever speaking to me.

My daughters live by a whole different set of rules. They are required to submit requests in writing before they get permission to go somewhere. I must have the kid's name, address, home phone, cell phone, parent's cell phone, and parent's name before I will even consider letting them go. I also speak to the parent(s) before they go. Visiting kids must give me their information so I can contact their parents in case of emergency.

I trust my kids.....I don't trust strangers with my kids.

 

[eenie114]

.... In WRITING?

Wow. You're mean!

Just kidding.

 

[BrattishTaz]

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I pride myself on being mean.

 

[eenie114]

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I pride myself on being mean.

 

[bawkbawkbawk]

It's probably all fine but your description reminded me of that terrible Nicholas Markowitz murder http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Nicholas_Markowitz

He was kidnapped because of his half-brother's drug debt and kept at various homes in Santa Barbara, CA for a period of days where NOT ONE parent asked who he was or what was going on. Jesse James Hollywood and his cronies took him up the mountain and executed him when they found out that they could be charged for kidnapping. Sad, sad story.

Teenagers bully their parents into not "prying". I'm so glad those years are in the rear-view mirror!

 

[Spookwriter]

I am the homeowner. I am the one legally responsible, I am the
one their parents can and sue in case of an accident.

Absolutly, I have emergency contact information on my daughters
friends. Yes, I speak with the parents prior to their dropping a child
off on my property. Planned, unless it is an emergency.

 

[saddina]

For me and my kids, not a chance....

However I've had other parents who were that lax (all of thier friend's parents are). One child we invited to the beach for a picnic, now this is 2 HOURS away, and a few miles from the border (mr saddi has an office there). We invite a week ahead of time, I give the girl a numkber for her parents to call and give permission. no call. day before she insists they told her it was fine, so we walk her home, they were shocked that i knocked on the door to confirm it. (look lady i'm not crossing 2 county lines with your kid till i know it's ok from you, not a 12 yr old).

Spring comes and it's time for the family vacation. the boys ask if they can bring a friend, we crunch the numbers to bring a friend for 3 days is less than 150 more, so we agree, with them knowing they'll ave way less souvineer cash than usual. child is invited a month before, we make sure it's during thier school vacation days, and send them home with a number to have thier parents call. No call. same routine, after a week I walk to the child's house to confirm, oh yes, they've been talking nonstop about the trip, of course they can go, didn't they tell me it was ok? Uhh i'm not taking your teen on vacation for a week without explicit permission, that's called kidnapping.

in this case it's not trust, so much as a lack of attention from te parents, which is why she's always here, parents are home and meals are cooked.

 

[saddina]

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i had to put it on the calender with the house number so my mum could call and "say goodnight" at all sleepovers. (before cell numbers)