Teenagers and rules??

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

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My house - they would have been!!

 

[Gmsg01]

My DSs are now 17 and23, but they did not go where I did not have a phone number, and have already spoken to the adults associated with the location. Has nothing to do with trust, and everything to do with safety. Even now, if they are in my house, I need to know where they are going, and when they will be home. Simple respect and consideration of the home owners. And to drop your teen off, and pick them up two days later????? Hope someone handed that parent a room and board bill! Fine if invited by responsible parties, not fine to be free loaders otherwise!

 

[yinepu]

And people wonder why I have critters and never wanted kids.....

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

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More people should make that choice!!!!

I am sorry especially with teen girls there is NO WAY i am leaving my girls at some one's home with no clue who is taking care of them.

And no way can two kids I don't know hanging in my house for three days and not even speaking to me. I am not providing free child care either!!!

I really want to hear from more teens..... this is normal to you????

 

[Ec_Prokta]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

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More people should make that choice!!!!

I am sorry especially with teen girls there is NO WAY i am leaving my girls at some one's home with no clue who is taking care of them.

And no way can two kids I don't know hanging in my house for three days and not even speaking to me. I am not providing free child care either!!!

I really want to hear from more teens..... this is normal to you????

To me, this is abnormal at best. What were these parents thinking?!​

 

[eenie114]

From a teen: NO. Not normal for me AT ALL. My dad had a FIT when my stepsister wasn't with the friend he thought she was with. He knows both friends and parents, but was very upset when he didn't know where she was.
The whole episode was my fault, BTW.
"Can I go to Halley's house?"
"Sure."

Later:
"Ohhhhh, you said HAILEY? I thought you said HALLEY. Oops."
Back to original topic, sounds like there are some very un-involved parents and it may need addressed.

 

[PotterWatch]

By the time I was that age, I could tell my parents my plans and they would take my word for it. It probably helped that I never lied to them about where I was going or what I was doing. I was a good kid who didn't cause or get into trouble. I would never have stayed at a friend's house if they weren't there though. That sounds odd. I wouldn't let kids stay at my house without my kid present unless I had talked to their parents or truly found out what was going on.

 

[redhen]

Nope..not normal at all. And that dad is opening himself up to some serious "potential" problems someday.... hes just been LUCKY thats nothings happend yet....

 

[bkreugar]

I have a 13yr old and she would like it to be that way but its not.

I would say 1/2 the parents want to talk to me before my kid goes over and 1/2 don't.

Now when someone new comes to my house then about 3/4 of the parents want to talk to me beforehand.

I think because the kids have cell phones they think they will always be safe which we know is not always true.


My 13yr old is spending the entire weekend at a somewhat friends lakehouse.

Its about 2 hrs away. DD had issues with this girl off and on most of the year. Then softball season came and this girl was on her team. The girl did her darndest to make nice with my dd. I don't know why. I am leery of kid and she had asked dd several times before and i said no.

Well this kid just keeps asking and asking I really don't know why. DD finally plaeded to spend the night I gave in THEN she finds out it is for weekend. DD wasn't so keen but is going. I told her I can't rescue you right away if you have problems as it is so far away and 2 days is ASKING for trouble with 2 girls but she went.

This girls mom never talked to me this time but had several times in the past. So yeah I think parents just get lax/lazy. I willbe hoping dd has a good time this weekend. I am hoping for the best. I am 40 and speending the night was a treat but these kids do it like every weekend.

I am th emean mom because I let her do maybe 2 social things a week. Like skating and spending the night or seeing a movie with us and her ~boyfriend~ sitting with us and going to a friends. I just never let her do more than 2 social things a week. She also played softball and is on the all stars this year, so that takes up several hours a week, and we trail ride so we keep busy, and that helps.

Lots of these girls have NOO activities NOTHING to do or look forward too.

 

[CrazyChickensEverwhere]

Ok I am a teen and That seems odd. If I am spending the night at a cousins/relatives house, its ok as long as my aunt or uncle says ok, But when its time for me to go, they pick me up(parents). If I am a friends house I have talk to my friends parents and ask, with that being said I need to talk to my mom or dad about it and see if I can get a ride, Now if I want to spend a extra day or so I need to call them(parents) talk to them and see if my parents have time to pick me up the next day, and if they don't have to go room, the day I planned to in the first place I have to go home. I can't just go to a friends house and not come back.