teenagers

[WriterofWords]

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Thank you, I know a lot of parents who even with the gas prices higher will pack the kid, go for a drive, and either come back a much happier and together unit, or at least get said what needs to be said. Sometimes that's all you can hope for, and then you just hope and pray that what is said will eventually get through and sink in, but like seeds, they need time to grow.

 

[mzrea]

I used to tell my son ... you better call social services now to come pick up your bloodied body!

(of course, I never did draw blood but he saw the back of my hand a time or two.)

 

[TheOLDNewChick]

I'm a decent kid, I think.



...I will admit, I have my moments.

 

[fasbendera]

When he was 13 and started the teen years everyone said wait until he is 16 it will get better. When he was sixteen they said wait until he is 18. He is eighteen and now they say late twenties to early thirties. Ahhh!

The Good News is he signed up for the Reserves his junior year, boot camp was last summer before senior year, graduates in June, leaves for AIT Training Camp in June and starts college in August. I don't think I will miss him as much it has been a long year.

 

[JennsPeeps]

DBF's 15 yo son visited last summer. I was ready to drop him off a cliff after about 2 days.

Wish I knew everything again. It's amazing how stupid adults where back when I was a kid.

Good luck with your son.

 

[pokey]

well i don't have a teen yet, but i was one that thought i had all the answers and was grown at 16. i was also blessed to have a mother who was well versed in dealing with that as i was the youngest of 4. MY MISTAKE.......lol. i learned from my mother that punishment and respect was dished out and earned from simple embarrasment........MINE. when i got my first car that i did pay for and ins. i thought i needed no curfew and she could not keep me from driving.... well , she didn't take my keys, she had my older brothers remove the tires.... so ha ha ha. to a teen, embarrassment in front of your friends is worse than death...... atleast for me.

 

[sarahloveschickens]

considering i am one.. i dont think i would like to be eaten

 

[Year of the Rooster]

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Agreed! But I am also partly offended. Teenage years are one of the hardest times of our lives, we're confused, stressed, and constantly changing. I know I like to be alone most of the time, unless I'm with my friends then I don't mind. I see why it may be hard, but, especially for me, I'm trying to be independent while still relying on my parents and its TOUGH! Not to mention concentrating on school, sport, girlfriends/boyfriends, etc. Honestly, I know parents think its hard, but the world has changed and so has the social aspect of growing up. Merely an honest opinion but sometimes parents take us for granted.

 

[Beau coop]

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Agreed! But I am also partly offended. Teenage years are one of the hardest times of our lives, we're confused, stressed, and constantly changing. I know I like to be alone most of the time, unless I'm with my friends then I don't mind. I see why it may be hard, but, especially for me, I'm trying to be independent while still relying on my parents and its TOUGH! Not to mention concentrating on school, sport, girlfriends/boyfriends, etc. Honestly, I know parents think its hard, but the world has changed and so has the social aspect of growing up. Merely an honest opinion but sometimes parents take us for granted.

They don't call it teenage angst for nothing!

It is difficult to watch my almost 16 year old DD on her own roller coaster ride towards adulthood. She is a wonderful young woman who struggles with all the issues you listed above. Sometimes she drives me nuts, but I can totally respect how difficult being a teen is.

That said, you must be respectful of your parents. No matter what is going on. They are the strongest support system you will ever have. Maybe that's why some kids feel it is ok to treat them badly- they'll always be there right? But parents have limits to what they can take and they have feelings too.

 

[deb1]

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Agreed! But I am also partly offended. Teenage years are one of the hardest times of our lives, we're confused, stressed, and constantly changing. I know I like to be alone most of the time, unless I'm with my friends then I don't mind. I see why it may be hard, but, especially for me, I'm trying to be independent while still relying on my parents and its TOUGH! Not to mention concentrating on school, sport, girlfriends/boyfriends, etc. Honestly, I know parents think its hard, but the world has changed and so has the social aspect of growing up. Merely an honest opinion but sometimes parents take us for granted.

I always tell my kids that if they think life is tough now, imagine how it was during the Black Plague or a wartime draft or the Middle Ages when you could be tortured in horrible ways. Let's don't forget that during most time periods kids would have worked as hard as their parents or faced starvation. You can't get much tougher then that. All ages have been hard for teenagers but there have been a lot worse times to live in.

By the way, I LIKE my teens. Sure they occasionally aggravate me, but they are overall good kids.

I like their friends too.