Terrible Twos?

[LarryPQ]

Start potty training. He is a boy, so have him start tinkling outside. Start now while it is still warm. You may have to tinkle outside too...I drank LOTS of water potty training my first.

But, it is fun for them as it is new. Have DH help.

If you have tile, have him naked as much as possible. Commando, it is easier for him to notice "the urge". Plus with #2, one or two incidents with the doggies chasing him pretty much gets him accustomed to noticing #2 urge.

EDITED: Mine started wanting to tinkle outside at 18 months. Holdling the poo took until 28 months to master.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

If he is 2 and hates diaper changes, it is time for "the talk." You know, the one about potty training, and is he a big enough boy to use the potty?

Then you outline what he would be expected to do, and how you will help him learn. An excellent resource is Toilet Training in Less than a Day. I don't advocate every bit of their process, but believe that there is a good bit that is very practical and helpful. I personally don't believe it can be reliably done in a day, but taking a couple of days to practice over and over is a good start, then you sit back and let him take the lead.

If he says he is ready to try, take him shopping for underwear with his favourite super hero or cartoon character and a potty chair--either the kind that is separate from the toilet or one that sits atop the toilet with steps so he can climb up. Also get reward snacks and drinks--salty, not sweet snacks (to make him thirsty, setting up lots of practices).

If he says, no, he isn't ready (and you truly believe he isn't), then ask him why he hates diaper changes so much. I have known kids (including one grandson) who would happily stand still for a diaper change, but would not lay down for one. Or you could tell him that he can run around without his diaper for 3 minutes as soon as he is cleaned up. The set a timer and allow him to do so. Negotiate something that works for both of you.

If you think he is ready, but he says he is not, then wait a couple of weeks and simply tell him it is time--that he is growing up and is a big boy now.

 

[SarahFair]

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I noticed sometimes in the bath he will start acting funny and Ill take him to sit on the potty but he is so scared of falling in I guess..
Then hell pee on the floor.

Ive asked him whats wrong with a diaper and explained to him that if hes not going to let me put diapers on he needs to use the potty. Then walked him to the potty and tried sitting him on it but hes so scared of it.

Ive tried the standing diaper changes but he hates them just as much.


Ive tried to explain to him that the potty is nothing that is going to hurt him and let him flush some TP down it. Didnt work. I dont think hes ready and I dont want to push it too much and shy him away from it

 

[LarryPQ]

Time to start ahving him follow you and DH into the bathroom whenever you go. Clap and sing a potty song everytime you are done. Let him flush as a "Reward" for watching, and then wash your hands together.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Also, a seat that is sized so that he cannot fall in or a separate potty chair where he can keep his feet firmly on the floor will help with his fear. He may not like the noise of flushing, and he is probably afraid of falling in and being flushed down the drain--kids have no sense of proportion to realize that he is far too large for that to happen. Or you can teach him to stand up to use the potty, just like Daddy (actually, it might be better to have Daddy give the initial training here; I think there are nuances that we girls just don't understand.

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[Chickerdoodle13]

When I was little, my mom used to let us get something from the gumball machine at the store if we were good. I remember looking forward to that during the whole shopping trip. However, it wasn't something she used as a threat or punishment. We knew that if we were good, we'd get something out of the gumball machine. If we were bad, all she had to do was give us a look and we knew better than to ask for something out of the machine at the end of the shopping trip. If we were really bad, we'd go in our rooms for five minutes. I remember that being the most terrible punishment ever. Didn't matter if we had all the toys in the world in the bedroom with us, just being punished like that was terrible.

Another thing that always worked for us was taking away a favorite toy. My brother had a favorite teddy bear and when he was bad, my mom would tell him she would take it away. After that, if he continued, she would take it away, no words said. Granted, we didn't get in trouble very often because we HATED being punished! Growing up, I never needed to be grounded and neither did my brother. Now of course I tell my mom she can send me to my room whenever she wants!