Boy, it has sure been rough....to make a long story short, my husband and I separtated over three years ago, I found that I could no longer deal with the drinking. We had two beautiful children together, a DD and a DS. Needless to say....the separtation was hard on the DS who is now...16, he is so full of anger, resentment!! Although he is my baby, times are hard, it has been a 3 year battle, between him going back and forth living with his Dad, and then wanting to come home with me after him finding out on his own, the reason I could no longer live with his Dad. We are def in the teens and his hormones I'm sure are part to blame, but this boy is a big boy....like 6'2 or very near or well over 230lbs. Which he gets from his dad's side, my family is all short and squatty...I top the chart off at about 5'1 and 140lbs...so he towers over me....but this boy is so angry to this day, and now I have just learned that once again he is failing 4 of his classes!!! This is not the first time, although he is a very smart kid, he just plain refuses to do his work. I have tried and tried, taken this away, taken that away, he's been grounded..nothing phases him. Every time this happens, he lies to me, tells me that he is not failing or it is because of his test scores being that he just can't get it. Well, my DD has a learning disability and she graduated last year, she was one of those that would study and study and study and it just didn't work, she spent most of every eve working on homework, just trying to understand. Well, needless to say, she did graduate, but it wasn't easy!!! But, from past experience I do know, for a fact, that if you do your homework, and do it well...you will pass your class, test scores my bring it down to a barely passing, but homework can definetly make or break you. Well, I once again confronted DS last nite, not good, he blames test scores, I try to explain, I know better than that, a 28% is because you are putting forth no effort what so ever...well, here we go once again, "I'm going to live with my Dad"!! I fear that to the worse, but dont know what else to do, his dads whole side of the family are drinkers, not sure that any of them graduated and they spend the weekends, drinking and partying...so of course I don't want that, but...the boy is 16, what can I do, what should I do, I have tried and tried to make him realize that he needs to get it together, but, now failing 4 classes, not enough time to bring them to passing, unless he works a miracle. Do I need to add that he has to make up two classes from last year, because he failed??? I am just about to give, I can only do so much, he is the one who has to put forth the effort and get it together. I am just so saddened and hurt, now, I am to blame...don't kids do that well(blame the parents)??? I have to admit, both of my kids are spoiled, and there was a period, where I babied them and felt that I caused them pain by leaving their Dad, but....that has been years, and now I have a great relationship with him as the father to my children, that is it, and for the most part...it is good, until....this comes up with the DS...please keep in mind, DS has not seen his father for over 4 to 5 months now, as he is just to "busy"!!(Doesn't paying child support take care of everything...140 every two weeks)(and he is just so darn busy, just no time and he lives a half an hour away, no calls, nothing) I have made it a point to call him several times and ask, can't you come and take him hunting, fishing....oh i forgot...you are to busy!!!! So, how is he going to live with him??? I know I am rambling on, I just am at a total loss here, I don't want anything other than the best for my kids, but I honestly don't know how much more I can handle. At least, I have my peeps and can go out and find peace with them, they love to see me coming....and in return I love them for being there....I sit silently just watching, with the occasional giggle, oh they keep my heart pounding!!!! Thanks for listening, I just had to rant and ramble!!!
