I had so much trouble having the first one. The doctor reassured me I would not be able to have anymore. Surprise! After the second one, they tied my tubes. We adopted the third one. At a certain point in each of their lives, they all broke my heart. To some degree, I think that's normal. Fences were mended, and things have been fine with my first 2, but I don't ever want to see my 3rd. child again in my lifetime. Today, I have an excellent relationship with my oldest daughter. I have a very good relationship with my middle daughter. Was it all worth it? To me, it was.
I always wanted kids, but I didn't want a husband. I said the same thing about husbands as speckledhen said about kids. My mother had a conniption fit. Years later, after going through an extremely rough divorce, twice to the same man, since they rescinded the first divorce, and I suddenly found myself married again, I reminded her that I had never wanted a husband to begin with. She agreed that all our lives would have been better had I not married him, and just had the kids.