We had an ugly incident at work yesterday that I just cant get over.
One woman, who has a tendency to be a bit of a loose cannon basicly cornered the sweetest girl we have and asked some very pointed questions of a racial nature stemming from a football player that I know nothing about but who evidently got into trouble over his language? she kept insisting on sprinkling the “N” word thoughout, which I feel is expressly verboten in modern polite converstaion.
I am trying not to get detailed but my panic alarms went up and I think I rushed in to help but due to my inexact mastery of the human language in a crisis, I may not have been seen to have been as helpful as I intended. I tried deflect anyway with an anecdote to suggest it would be best to stop talking about the subject in question. The attacker was actually stopped dead by the insersion of a clueless boss into the situation (just asking for some product, not knowing what was going on) and the poor attacked girl fled. I followed her to see if she was okay and to express my concerns that the whole subject was completely unfortunate and nothing she should have ever had to deal with, and the woman followed to continue the conversation!!! and kept saying the "N" word. Rightly, one of our other coworkers related said inappropriate discussion to the big boss who has now suspended the one girl for being an idiot and we have to all sign affadavits on what we heard and said.
I almost feel gulty because it looks like they will be asking her to leave in a pretty strong way and she’s someone who always sorta made me nervous anyway. Chaos personified... a "you-give-an-inch-she-takes-a-mile" type that it will be a bit of a relief not to have to worry about any more. She was a constant boundary pusher and it made me uncomfortable. Losing her job will probably make her lose her house (and she has 5 kids) I am feelling guilty about being relieved.
And all night long, I am laying in bed thinking where I could have kept this train from derailing, but I always think of the perfect thing to say 30 minutes after it would have been useful
One woman, who has a tendency to be a bit of a loose cannon basicly cornered the sweetest girl we have and asked some very pointed questions of a racial nature stemming from a football player that I know nothing about but who evidently got into trouble over his language? she kept insisting on sprinkling the “N” word thoughout, which I feel is expressly verboten in modern polite converstaion.
I am trying not to get detailed but my panic alarms went up and I think I rushed in to help but due to my inexact mastery of the human language in a crisis, I may not have been seen to have been as helpful as I intended. I tried deflect anyway with an anecdote to suggest it would be best to stop talking about the subject in question. The attacker was actually stopped dead by the insersion of a clueless boss into the situation (just asking for some product, not knowing what was going on) and the poor attacked girl fled. I followed her to see if she was okay and to express my concerns that the whole subject was completely unfortunate and nothing she should have ever had to deal with, and the woman followed to continue the conversation!!! and kept saying the "N" word. Rightly, one of our other coworkers related said inappropriate discussion to the big boss who has now suspended the one girl for being an idiot and we have to all sign affadavits on what we heard and said.
I almost feel gulty because it looks like they will be asking her to leave in a pretty strong way and she’s someone who always sorta made me nervous anyway. Chaos personified... a "you-give-an-inch-she-takes-a-mile" type that it will be a bit of a relief not to have to worry about any more. She was a constant boundary pusher and it made me uncomfortable. Losing her job will probably make her lose her house (and she has 5 kids) I am feelling guilty about being relieved.
And all night long, I am laying in bed thinking where I could have kept this train from derailing, but I always think of the perfect thing to say 30 minutes after it would have been useful
