I wasn't being critical of the forums here necessarily - I was trying to point out that when I already know what I was doing isn't the easiest or the "right" way and problems result, it's pointless to come here and ask. I already know the answer if I'd take an honest look at what I was doing, so there's no point letting myself in for the dressing down. My dad would call that "pi***ng in my path of progress." True, sometimes when I read some of the responses to new owners who are in a panic, I want to jump in there and say, "Gee, must be nice to have come from the womb knowing it all - being able to skip the 'beginner' part completely and just go straight to expert who's never made a stupid decision or mistake. Help the OP learn instead of driving him away, and he'll know better next time." But I know better than to get involved in that kind of discussion. Besides, right after I said that I didn't want to hear what I might get for responses if I posted a question, I turned around and said that I'd like to be at the chick display and stop people from doing dumb things - so I guess that makes me guilty of "instant expertism" too. (Like that term? I made that up, but I may add it to my dictionary!) Easy to do.Blooie is right ... it isn't "helpful" when you come to BYC looking for information on how to cope with a bird situation and instead of getting information about that you get scolded and criticized on a personal level. Well ... I suppose doing the scolding and criticizing somehow "helps" the people who pounce on any opportunity to scold & criticize, but that seems very, very beside the point to me.
I don't think anybody honest is ever going to say "I did it all perfectly from day one." But it does take a particularly generous person to share details of their learning curve with others. Many of us are here to learn, and still have a lot of gaps in what we know. It is lovely to be teachable.
I like the way I can come to the Porch and be gently corrected or advised without feeling stupid and without those responding looking mean spirited. When I made the mistakes with my coop and suggestions were made, I was totally free to use those that fit my situation (which I did) and ignore those that didn't. I know that I'm the one living here, and I know that what works for one person's area might not work for mine. Does it make the suggestions bad? Nope - they were all good suggestions. It's just that some didn't fit and I said so because here I could. What makes the Porch special is that it didn't turn into a session of blast, blast back, and blast harder to prove a point. I like that so many of you are enthusiastic about trying new things and doubly so when it comes to sharing them. Telling us what worked and what you'd do differently works a lot better than telling us we are dumb for not doing it your way. I've learned more here than on all the other forums because I come away with the message instead of dwelling on the attitude of the messenger.
I'll be using a combination of ideas from the Porch when we start building the run - both because they are sensible and will save me time on the learning curve and because they were offered with humor, affection and kindness. I've used Bee's suggestions about lowering the pop door and making my own waterer. I didn't take her suggestion about windows on the North or bigger windows, I explained why, and guess what? She still likes me! Some of you will be "dog training" together. All of you are amazing.