THe i want to slap my stepdaughter upside her head rant by Conny

[debilorrah]

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WHAT? The WIFE is an interloper?? I think not. Kids shouldn't get to call the shots. Ever. Saying that disrespect and racism is "just what kids do" is wrong. That kind of behaviour would never have been tolerated when I was growing up.

Coni can't help the fact that she's German (nor should she ever have to defend it). She's not a Nazi anymore than I'm part of the KKK. You can't be held responsible for things that happened beyond your control. Letting those kids say things like that putting down her race is a big-time no no. I can't believe any parent would let their kids say things like that to anyone, let alone their spouse.

Deep breath girl, slowly release. Deep breath, hold it, release.

 

[ksacres]

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I agree with this statement 100% It's not the form that matters, it's the sentiment involved.

Part two- yep, that's what I'm saying. Cold shoulder, all the way. And in my turn, I wouldn't allow anyone to disrespect him either. Couples are supposed to support each other all the time, and defend each other when necessary.

 

[conny63malies]

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Now my hubby and I don't have myspace account but I'm not going to look down on another married couple because they do. A wife sending a message to her hubby about the two of them is not inviting anything. I do think that the suggested reason for the account is a huge assumption. It's not up to her or her husband on how to deal with this. It's up to all of them. They all need to be respectful, put in the effort, and the 18 year old needs to grow up. The original message sent to her hubby had nothing to do with anyone other than her and her hubby.

I wasnt looking down on anyone first of all... and second, Okay, I'll concede to the fact of I assumed that is the reason for her husbands Myspace account, it seemed logical based on the entire posting and subsequent information provided; so I'll clarify and state that no married couples I know (and most have been married anywhere from 10 -20+ years) do not have a MySpace account and post to one another in that manner.

My question is why put "Remember I love you more" out there when you know his kids, who according to her own post - have issues and have done this before? I can see posting "Remember I love you" but why the "more" part?

Again... we dont know all of the facts here, just one side

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the more part is a family gag type of thing for us.
one goes i love you
next i love you more
i love you more than that ...
no i love you more than
well i love you 3.145967577..(pie)
posting on each others myspace has become normal because he used to work 7am to way late sometimes past 9pm

 

[ksacres]

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Thanks debi! I needed that. The racism thing gets me "all 'het' up"!

 

[TexasVet]

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Hubby and I would NEVER Myspace to each other...





(we use facebook!

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I agree completely! Myspace is a public forum; messages between a husband and wife should be private. I would no more post Myspace "love notes" than I would allow my whole town to eavesdrop on our phone conversations.

 

[tdgill]

its the word MORE that is the problem here.

more than who? Sorry, you're in the wrong in this argument. If you didn't expect her to be ticked at your post - then you don't have any right to be ticked at what she posted in response. Do you set yourself up for stuff like this often? Not good.

 

[ksacres]

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Hubby and I would NEVER Myspace to each other...





(we use facebook!

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I agree completely! Myspace is a public forum; messages between a husband and wife should be private. I would no more post Myspace "love notes" than I would allow my whole town to eavesdrop on our phone conversations.

Wifezilla was joking. Facebook is almost exaclty like myspace.

 

[pips&peeps]

She put the My Milkshake is better than yours on

I just wanted to say that I think that is just wrong on so many levels...........

 

[ksacres]

pips&peeps :

She put the My Milkshake is better than yours on

I just wanted to say that I think that is just wrong on so many levels...........

 

[ChickBond 007]

Using your terms "Slapping upside the head" is not a adult way to deal with the situation, even if the comment was not meant as literal physical contact.

The divorce and remarriages are not the fault of the child, but the children are left to deal with those complex situations for a lifetime. It means too many Christmas celebrations to fit into a day as an adult, it means worrying about 2 seats at graduation when you have 4 parents now... all sort of little traumas.

Take the adult stance and have a calm, collected conversation with step daughter and hubby in one room. Explain that your comment wasn't "competition", just an expression of love. Face to face, with her father there too, she will have to explain her side of the story.

Then, drop the myspace/facebook in your marriage. It's just asking for trouble.

JMHO