The Inlaws. Grrrr :(

[agnes_day]

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[EweSheep]

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Of course you need them immediately, whether or not you are breast-feeding! For some women, the after-birth bleeding can last for up to six weeks.

Yep, bleed as you will! Right after giving birth, Mine lasted eight weeks, dry for a week, then back to bleeding for two weeks and after that it was normal. A bottle of iron pills might help too LOL! And I was breastfeeding the whole time as well. So it was NO dry spell for me at all. Fertile Mertle, that is!

I never thought of maxi pads as a baby shower but would it be helpful to have some bath soaps, shampoo, washcloths, new towels along with maxi pads JUST for the MOM? Maybe that wuld not be so tacky!

I would never feed in my monster in law either, she is a REAL *****! Hubby never got along with her either ever since he was born. I love my FIL thought despite of his patience with his wife. I never called her my MIL, just hubby's mother.

 

[babylady4]

WOW, I am so happy I have a WONDERFUL MIL..... she would never do these things to me or the DIL she does NOT like......

Stand your ground and stand up for yourself. Do not allow anyone to treat you like a doormat. Explain to your DH he needs to think about his DD andif this is appropriate treatment for her. If it is not, then why is it ok for you? If it is then he should hit the road!

Too many times to count I have told my husband to go back home to his mommy if he wants to be mothered. I am his wife and life partner, NOT his personal slave and baby machine! Respect me and I will respect you. There is no way on this earth would I make him breakfast after he treated me like that! Being an adult has nothing to do with it, it is what you allow him to do to you.

Drugs would be reason enough to NEVER allow grandchildren to visit. Your DH needs to be brought up to speed about her issues or you are going to continue to have problems.

 

[Dinkadoo]

Fortworthchicks sounds like we have the same MIL but no mine is dead. I feel your pain. I never knew anyone could be so evil until I met my MIL. She made my life a living hell. Everything she had and did was much much better than I had. I would complain to my DH but he would finally say She is my mother. I went off on her a couple of times and she started to tread lightly. My husband finally saw the light when she started suffering from demetia and turned evil on her own children. To this day he still apologizes for allowing his mama to treat me the way she did. I guess everyone would like their mama to be June Cleaver. But this woman had some serious issues and the sad thing about it is her 60ish year old daughter is still trying to live up to her dead mama's standards. My MIL missed out on seeing her grandchildren because of her actions but I don't think she really cared. I really think the only person she ever loved was herself. I know I sound horrible but the evil stories I could tell. Nobody can tell you what to do as far as your marriage is concerned. Counciling could help both you and your DH. In the early years of marriage I did think of leaving my DH because of her but she would have won and now we have the best marriage in the world. Like they say for better or worse. I will be praying for you.

 

[SportTees]

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Well said

 

[mikenandrea]

Without reading through the 6 pages of posts, I am going to reply.. Without going through what you are now, I can feel for ya. There are always going to be "THE" person in anyones family that is going to be HARD AS HE** to please, no matter what you do.. Wrapping up 10 packages of pads?? WTH?? It is funny that you played her game though.. And played it well.. hehe

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

I haven't read most of the replies either, but to me, her gifts don't seem that bad.

1. You're gonna have some issues going on down there after you give birth. She probably knew this and was helping you prepare.
2. You are married to her SON. Plus, there are not that many pieces of clothing that say "Mommy's Girl."

 

[FortWorthChicks]

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1.) maybe in your world it is ok to gift wrap 10 packs of maxi pads.. but in my world it is overboard.
2.) I married him... not her.