The Inlaws. Grrrr :(

[PineappleMama]

She actually wrapped up maxi pads as a gift? Seriously? That would be incredibly rude to do to ANYONE... but to give something like that to a pregnant woman... well... for me, I'd be very upset (not counting hormones!) to think that she was hoping I'd be needing them... maybe that makes me warped, but darned if that wasn't the first thought that entered my mind... why ELSE would you give a pregnant woman maxi pads? Pregnancy = No Cycles... the only reason a pregnant woman needs those is if something goes horribly wrong... so yeah... giving those, to my admittedly warped mind, equals hoping for something to go wrong and that would have led to a HUGE explosion. The difference is though, that my hubby would have understood... one the logic, but two the hormones. He'd still want peace, but not at sacrificing his marriage vows. But then, he comes from a long line of honorable men. Good men who keep their word once it's given. That's something that just doesn't happen a whole lot nowadays, so it's even more precious when you do find it.

Sounds to me like your hubby needs to pull his head out of his keister ... or perhaps his mothers... and realize that he's made vows to YOU... and that as a man he's expected to live up to them. Next time he gets cranky just hand him a pair of scissors... maybe he'll get up the ... nerve... to cut the umbilical... since she certainly never did.

*huge hugs*

 

[mulia24]

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I just realize the meaning of giving that pads.

well, since I'm a man, I think that's acceptable that I'm not understand meaning behind that *gift*. I've heard many times that vow is really important in western culture, it's good (a must) to keep a word that someone has already made.

 

[FortWorthChicks]

I keep finding more posts here supporting me. Thank yall... All of yall.

And Mulia... your english is very good!!!

 

[texasgal]

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Just a thought, here. All the gifts given at a baby shower are for use AFTER the baby is born. I don't know if you've ever HAD a baby, but AFTER the baby is born, you can go through a TON of maxi pads ...

I still think it was a tacky gift, but I didn't think of it as her wishing for a miscarriage ..

imo
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[AHappychick]

The maxis got me too I do noy understand them. yes they are needed but really???? FYI if you breast feed there is no need for them as you dont get your monthly until you stop the BF. She sounds like a real piece of work.

If it makes you feel anybetter my PIL were not happy when we got prego and gave us nothing, after DH died they turned around and suied me it is still going on today and is the reason I will never be on my feet as the lawyer bills are over $250,000 at the moment and still climbing. Oh and they want nothing to do with my ds either.

 

[FortWorthChicks]

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That is terrible about your situation with your PIL's. Awful.

As far as the maxi pads go... When I unwrapped the first package I thought that was a great gag gift!

When I opened another and another and another I knew she was just evil. Funny thing is that I am the only one who picks up on her stabs. I filled up a big shopping bag with the packages of maxi pads. They would not all fit under my bathroom sink.

She stays away and I certainly do not visit her! I just let her bull roll off and act oblivious to it all when I do happen to see her. It is funny though because she puts effort into being mean to me and I just pretend she is being nice.

Her husband wonders why she stays up till 4 am every day. It is strange how you can see someone very close to you go through that kind of a dope habit and just never suspect.

I will sure think about buying her a busload of depends on her birthday sometime. lol maybe this year.

 

[agnes_day]

i was going to buy one of those enema/hot water/ personal feminine cleaning rubber bottles they have at the drug store for my monster in law, but my husband said that was "going too far"

 

[FortWorthChicks]

Just a thought, here. All the gifts given at a baby shower are for use AFTER the baby is born. I don't know if you've ever HAD a baby, but AFTER the baby is born, you can go through a TON of maxi pads ...

I still think it was a tacky gift, but I didn't think of it as her wishing for a miscarriage

True, doubt she wanted a miscarriage.... she went way over the top though.

I gave away probably 6 packs to another pregnant cousin of mine like 6 months after I had my daughter. I asked my cousin in private if she knew about the after effects of having a baby.. bla bla she had no clue and was thrilled I told her and offered.

She gladly accepted and her husband was clueless as he loaded up the maxi pads into his truck.

The look on his face was great.​

 

[HEChicken]

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Of course you need them immediately, whether or not you are breast-feeding! For some women, the after-birth bleeding can last for up to six weeks.

 

[wyliefarms]

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Same here! My MIL was my 2nd mom growing up and she has been gone for 2 years now. Miss her terribly!