The Inlaws. Grrrr :(

[sfw2]

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WAIT! Oh no way, sweetie! Why do you tolerate that behavior from him? Why??

I'm so sorry that hes so mean to you...

Redhen if I had read your post before I made him breakfast I sure would have ignored him a couple more days. lol. It just makes the household miserable though so I take it like a fool.

I don't think you're acting like a fool to try to make peace in the house. Somebody has to be the grown-up in this situation, and it sounds like that somebody is you.

 

[Domestic_goddess]

When I first saw your post, I hesitated answering anything to do with Mother in laws, because 9 out of 10 times I would only have negative things to say. Oh I have stories I could tell!!!! My mother in law is a piece of work........you would die if I told you how she came over to our apartment, with 4 of my Sister in laws on our WEDDING night and stayed until MIDNIGHT, opening OUR wedding gifts or how she would come over to our apartment while we were gone and re-arrange things. I could go on all day with stories like that. It's been 13 years since then, I've made peace with it and I have to choose my battles...let go everything else. I wish you all the best!

 

[horsejody]

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If my DH loved his mama that much, I would send him home to her. You don't have to be nice to her, just civil. As far as dope goes, you and hubby aren't doing her any favors by not exposing it. She would be better off getting caught. If he won't do anything, make an annonymous tip to the police. BTW he should be making up to you, not the other way around. If he doesn't love you, you can find better. If you love him, get counseling, with or without him. Don't suck up to his mother or him. If you do, then you are enabling the problem. The drug problem is hers, don't let her make it yours. Keep your kids away from the loser.

 

[rainplace]

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Oh the chunking of the sewing machine is funny!

yep, it was a drive by chunking..we didnt even stop the car, just pulled up to the curb and i threw (you mean CHUNKED it out!
i would just ignore her...easier said than done, i know all too well. eventually she will slip up and your husband will get tired of her.

fixed

 

[AmCanyonStables]

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Just have to tell another bad MIL story related to this one - and the bad MIL was my own sister!
She showed up at her son's wedding in ........a white lace dress!

 

[SportTees]

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I have a slightly different opion than the ones I've read on here. Stand your guns- if you tell mil how you feel and she chooses to act childish let her because you dont have to live with her. You do however have to live with your husband- if your in the right stand up to him also. If he loves you he will choose to take your side and tell his mother hisself. If not tell him to get to packing you dont need the drama. More than likely you will come out ahead with out the bs. Dont back down at all or it wont work.

 

[texasgal]

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Us too ... stood up to MIL .. she blackballed us to the rest of the family .. we kept on with our happy little lives and little by little we are seeing and talking to them again ..

She has NEVER met my kids .. and I've been with DH for 7 years ..

Called DH the night before our wedding (which she refused to come to unless we put her AND her dogs up AND let her smoke in our house) just to tell him that she loves her cats more than him .. a real jewel.

If I have it my way, she'll never meet my kids .. or my parents .. LOL

to the OP .. I DO understand!

 

[krzybo]

I hope you all take this the right way but after reading all of these MIL stories, I miss my MIL more than ever. I had a great one and I strive to be a great Mother In Law.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Ditto. I will also say that eldest DSD and her SIL both adore their MIL who dotes on both of them!

 

[mulia24]

Although with a little proficient in english, it took 5 minutes to read whole of your story, it's quite understandable, nothing's hard to understand.

My mother herself having such an *unfit* with my grandma, so it's almost like your situation.
I hope you can keep calm down to face her, may your DH can understand you and your MIL can stay at peace with you. a good, stable, peace family is hard to earn.

Pardon me, with my bad english I can't (and not dare to) talk too much, especially this is emotional related matter, I'm afraid of using wrong word will be considered offending to you/rude.