The Old Folks Home

[ozexpat]

I see no problem in delaying the sharing of a pregnancy. a daughter "secretly" telling her mom is ok.

Having gone through a miscarriage at 16 weeks, I would not tell anyone until there was no hiding it. The emails and phone calls asking how the baby was doing following the spontaneous abortion were extremely painful. We would have prefered to go that alone and not have to continuously tell people our baby died.

 

[dsqard]

Oz you do bring up a good point and that is part of the reason they are waiting a bit too. I just want her to tell my mom when we are all up in NY next month for the wedding. My mom has MS and this may be her last time travelling far. This is also her first great grandchild. My mother is notoriously bad at keeping secrets. I might be able to convince my daughter to tell my mother after the wedding but before she leaves to go back home.

 

[Bunnylady]

Oz, I know that was extremely painful. I've known a lot of couples that lost a pregnancy at about 12 weeks' gestation (that seems to be a rather critical stage in pregnancies - don't remember why). That's why I don't usually go all squealy when someone finds a second pink line on their EPT, and why I inquire about how the mom is doing, rather than about the baby.

 

[Peep_Show]

Thanks for being so eloquent, Oz.

 

[ozexpat]

Oz, I know that was extremely painful. I've known a lot of couples that lost a pregnancy at about 12 weeks' gestation (that seems to be a rather critical stage in pregnancies - don't remember why). That's why I don't usually go all squealy when someone finds a second pink line on their EPT, and why I inquire about how the mom is doing, rather than about the baby.

It was unbearable at the time.

We had been unable to fall pregnant for many years of marriage and had started to adopt. We were having a home study for the process of adopting a little boy from Central America. The social worker told us to get a pregnancy test before she sumbits the paperwork. Mrs Oz was infact 8 weeks pregnant. AT 14 weeks we cancelled the adoption proceedings. 2 weeks later our baby died.

This caused an amazing rollercoaster of emotion

This started the "well if you can get pregnant once you can again" talks. 2 years and $120,000 dollars at infertility clinics later we got a call saying somebody wanted to relinquish their child. We were given a 2 month old baby boy. 22 hours later we had to return him because the wealthy estranged grandfather of the child wanted him to go to a Jewish family.

We decided that we needed to control our adoption and moved to the Philippines. Between lost income and all the expenses, our children have cost us 1.4 million dollars so far and its atleast 6 months before they can fly back to usa with us. I am broke but complete in my heart and would not change it for the world.

 

[dsqard]

Oz I did not realize how much you and Mrs. Oz have been through to have the joy of being parents. The beautiful pictures you post of your two children only go to show what great parents you are and how much you really love them.

 

[Peep_Show]

Wow, Oz. Your endeavors tug the heart strings.

Sadly, loss of a baby leaves many with a loss for words and what comes out often is a miscued fumble. The intentions of condolences, I'm sure, were sincere...just not executed well.

I'm glad you've got a happy ending.... Well, let's term it a joyful beginning and continuation to your family.

 

[ozexpat]

Oz I did not realize how much you and Mrs. Oz have been through to have the joy of being parents. The beautiful pictures you post of your two children only go to show what great parents you are and how much you really love them.

Its been worth it. Toni and Enzo are amazing.

And I get to see them again in 11 days

 

[LindaB220]

Oz I did not realize how much you and Mrs. Oz have been through to have the joy of being parents. The beautiful pictures you post of your two children only go to show what great parents you are and how much you really love them.

x2 Oz, Your children are so beautiful.

 

[chickadoodles]

Wow, Oz. Your endeavors tug the heart strings.

Sadly, loss of a baby leaves many with a loss for words and what comes out often is a miscued fumble. The intentions of condolences, I'm sure, were sincere...just not executed well.

I'm glad you've got a happy ending.... Well, let's term it a joyful beginning and continuation to your family.

x2 Oz I'm also glad you and your wife got to adopt your children to make your family complete.