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[Athaid]

Thank you deb, I will look into it.

A bad teacher can really put someone off a subject. I have been to three primaries and three high schools, two of the Art teachers out of those six schools was actually good. The worst teacher was in the second high school I went to. No one was aloud to whisper or move and he would just sit in his desk and read the whole time. Someone started laughing at something about five minutes in to the lesson and he shouted at us to pack up our art and sit in silence for the rest of the fifty minute lesson. I think it's disgusting that a teacher like that can exist. My mother is actually trained as an art teacher and silversmith, she just had to give it up to look after us 24/7. Anyway, I was raised to be polite and respectful (but not a push over) so I still held the door open for people like him and stuff, even if he never thanked me. My sister saw an old couple drop a wallet and ran after them to give it back, they looked so shocked and tried to pay her, is it really so unexpected for someone to do something nice? Lol

 

[superchemicalgirl]

Spent the early part of the morning (sun's up at 0430) spraying the bird for mites, which they caught from visiting the wild bird feeder.

I used to think delousing the giant turkeys were bad.

I now have 9 guineas.

The turkeys are a delight compared to the insane guineas.

That is all.

 

[chickadoodles]

Latestarter, I've got 4 out of the 5 rows quilted.

Here's a sneak peak.

Very pretty.

 

[chickadoodles]

Spent the early part of the morning (sun's up at 0430) spraying the bird for mites, which they caught from visiting the wild bird feeder.

I used to think delousing the giant turkeys were bad.

I now have 9 guineas.

The turkeys are a delight compared to the insane guineas.

That is all.

Wow I can't even imagine that one.

 

[Wisher1000]

OK, I know this goes back like 35 pages or something, but what Wisher said is 1000% accurate (yes, there's an added zero there)

"Men need straight talk and direction and generally they will do what you want. They just don't draw conclusions or take hints very well. It turns out much better..."

The most common complaint you'll hear from a guy about a gal is "I wish she would just TELL ME WHAT SHE WANTS, instead of relying on me to guess, and then getting mad/upset/disappointed/distant/silent when I guess wrong"

Eventually, we just give up and stop guessing. It's just not worth the BS to play the game. Easier and less painful to just ignore and wait for her to FINALLY just SAY IT straight up.

Just one other thing that IMHO is a major issue... guys for the most part, are analytical and logical and use their brain first. Women for the most part, are emotional and feeling and use their heart first (regardless of the potential result of not doing the rational/logical/common sense <to us> thing

) #justsayin

Thanks for the applause, Latestarter. You are so sweet to say such things. I can't imagine why some woman hasn't scooped you up. It must be because you are a loner and very selective in your choice of the type of woman you will associate with. I don't blame you, as smart and hardworking as you are, (not to mention, easy on the eyes) you can afford to be selective. Your favorite oldest daughter (Ha Ha, I see what you did there) is lucky that her mother did one thing right, she picked you!

Yeah I know

I always pause before I say his first name because it feels weird, but I just figured that if I distanced myself from him then I could forget and move on, but clearly that hasn't worked very well.

Hmmmmmm, it sounds like the two of you are very much alike........ just an observation........... Don't call him by his name, call him Dad, or better yet, Daddy. If one of my kids called me by my first name, it would be like a stab in the heart. Don't punish him, he will recoil even more. Why pound in more wedges between you?

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Oh wow I'm sorry about that

But it's good that you have each other. I have decided I will try with him, he works far away from me so it would be many months before I could really do anything. But I haven't sent him any kind of birthday or Christmas card for years so I thought I could start by sending him one this year, what do you think? He sends me letters every now and then, I'm sure he cares about me I just wish I felt that. - we will see how it goes.

Why wait until Christmas or his birthday? Send him a letter, today. Make it short (when us girls write pages and pages, we usually say too much and the man it's written to just starts skimming after the first page anyway) and sweet, but not sappy. Keep it light, don't pour out your heart, there's time for that later. Something along the lines of "I was thinking about you today, hope you are well." and maybe a sketch on the corner, oh, or make a handmade card for him with a drawing on the front of something you know he likes! Car, truck, boat, fish, deer, tools, or something that refers to something fun you remember about him. "I drew this today, it reminds me of you. What have you been up to lately?" I can't emphasize enough to keep it casual and upbeat. This may be hard to believe, but he is probably terrified of you, and of getting close to you, no matter how much he wants to and works at appearing not to. You have a considerable amount of power in this situation, but with great power comes great responsibility.

Let me finish it before it becomes an heirloom.

It's a gift, do with it what you please.


The amount of hours I spend on a quilt - picking out fabric, piecing the top, basting the sandwich, actually doing the quilting work, squaring it up and then binding it - seems to some like a barrier to use. To me, a quilt that is faded, is wearing thin in spots, has stains and pet hair on it, is a loved quilt. So don't let any of this be a reason to make it an heirloom. I made it for you to love and enjoy it. You can still do what you want with it, but this is your permission to use the hell out of it.

Don't y'all just love SCG? She is truly a special person.........wait.....no, what is the term she used.............perfectly lovely. Yes, she is perfectly lovely.

I now have 9 guineas.

The turkeys are a delight compared to the insane guineas.

That is all.

This was not a guincident - this was "GUINSANITY!" Yeah, they are not fond of being touched.......or caught..... or held...... or sprayed......or looked at.........

 

[bruceha2000]

And yup I scanned it in from my old sketchbooks, they aren't the best I can do I was just testing.

Your OLD sketchbooks? If you don't think you have a great talent for drawing you are SERIOUSLY selling yourself short.

And I think Wisher's last post has the best, most concise, suggestion for starting to rekindle your relationship with your father. Don't even wait for his B-Day (your mother will know when it is). I know there is a 4th of July in Europe, but it has no special meaning like it does here in the USA but if there are any upcoming holidays, you could draw a nice card for that. If he hasn't seen your artwork, make sure you sign the drawing in a way that is obvious so he will know it was not purchased (because you COULD be selling 'greeting' cards). Putting in that effort says a lot more than a Hallmark "Thinking of you" card from the store.

And if the letter exchanges get things moving in a positive direction, SKYPE! Free

Then even if you can't go see his face, you can still talk face to face. Things are a WEE bit different now than they were when many of us were your age.

 

[Latestarter]

Ummmm my youngest daughter started calling me "daddy" when she was shmoozing me...

Also has some bad connotations from how it's used in general; "sugar daddy" and such. KISS; Keep It Simple Silly. Just dad. Monosyllable and says it all perfectly.

 

[bruceha2000]

Ummmm my youngest daughter started calling me "daddy" when she was shmoozing me...

Also has some bad connotations from how it's used in general; "sugar daddy" and such. KISS; Keep It Simple Silly. Just dad. Monosyllable and says it all perfectly.

At least you knew at the first word that she was hitting you up for something "Daddy"; shields up!

My mother's mother always called my grandfather Daddy. I do not KNOW why but maybe because once the kids come along, mothers often refer to the father (when talking to the children) by what the kids call him. Maybe it just stuck. My mother referred to her parents as "Mother and Daddy". Both of my sisters call my Dad "Daddy". My older daughter calls me Daddy, sometime Dad. The younger one always Dad. Well OK, sometimes it is Daaaad and you know the look that goes with it

 

[Athaid]

Your OLD sketchbooks? If you don't think you have a great talent for drawing you are SERIOUSLY selling yourself short. 

And I think Wisher's last post has the best, most concise, suggestion for starting to rekindle your relationship with your father. Don't even wait for his B-Day (your mother will know when it is). I know there is a 4th of July in Europe, but it has no special meaning like it does here in the USA but if there are any upcoming holidays, you could draw a nice card for that. If he hasn't seen your artwork, make sure you sign the drawing in a way that is obvious so he will know it was not purchased (because you COULD be selling 'greeting' cards). Putting in that effort says a lot more than a Hallmark "Thinking of you" card from the store.

And if the letter exchanges get things moving in a positive direction, SKYPE! Free   Then even if you can't go see his face, you can still talk face to face. Things are a WEE bit different now than they were when many of us were your age. 

Well I say old, just over a year ago "old" though. Thank you I don't have a pc of my own, had to borrow my mothers to scan my drawings and she only gave me ten minutes. He doesn't use Skype, he's not very interested in technology. Plus I think it would be weird. I will just see how the drawing goes for now, (Need to work out what to do now :/) and then I'll take it from there. I'm very very nervous about it so having a big conversation with him would probably give me a heart attack anyway

 

[Athaid]

Ops looks like his birthday was in march.. I didn't even know.