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[ronott1]

DD # 2 is going to drive us down to FL. Friday to spend the weekend with her.
The Dr. said that blood is still flowing past the clot so he thinks it will be ok on blood thinners. She is a full blown alcoholic and we are worried she will drink while taking all the meds they are going to put her on. And that also has to be in Gods hands.
Thank you all for all of your prayers and support. It has helped more than you will ever know.
And thanks Micro for reminding me that this is now!
Ron your helpful encouragement means so much, Thank you.

Any Time!

Lets hope this was reaching the bottom and She will go into recovery now.

 

[pennyJo1960]

sometimes it can be the catalyst to recovery

 

[Peep_Show]

chicka --
Prayers and hugs! Sending some speedy healing vibes and hopefully in a little bit this will all be in your daughter's rearview mirror.
BIG HUGS!!!

 

[superchemicalgirl]

Please mention the alcoholism to the treatment team. You are correct that mixing anticoagulation and alcohol is very bad. The warfarin levels can fluctuate significantly with alcohol on board and they may want to consider a different type like a doac or no anticoagulation at all.

 

[Kusanar]

Hey, weird thought, but, when horses have a skin cancer somewhere that it's easy to cut into, they will surgically remove, but, if it's somewhere like an eyelid in a place that they can't remove it, they do chemo on it by injecting chemo directly into the spot every so often. I had to have a small cancerous thing taken off of my stallions eyelid (pink skin, white hair, lives outside 24/7, hell to put sunscreen on) and once it was removed, she injected the chemo into the edges of the wound to kill anything she may have missed. She also said that if there was enough room, that they actually have chemo in pellet form that she can put in the wound when she stiches it up and it will slow release the drugs in that local area.

I did not see any bad effects in my stallion from his chemo dose, he never acted odd other than his eye itching, no hair loss, no weight loss.... I wonder why they don't do this for people since it seems to be easy, cheap, (farm call, sedation, numbing, surgery, and chemo injection was about $350 all together and 60 of that was farm call) a lot easier on the patient, seems to work well (i have known 2 horses now with skin cancer that was cleared up with no return), and this was all done in a dirty barn on a standing horse with no complications...

 

[chickadoodles]

Please mention the alcoholism to the treatment team. You are correct that mixing anticoagulation and alcohol is very bad. The warfarin levels can fluctuate significantly with alcohol on board and they may want to consider a different type like a doac or no anticoagulation at all.

Thank you Scg. When I called the nurse yesterday I made sure I told her my daughter was an alcoholic. And she was not always truthful. Im sure the nurse told the Dr.
This may also be why they are putting her in a brace instead of surgery.

 

[chickadoodles]

Thanks Peep.

My daughter has gone into treatment several times and right back at it.
I can only pray that she will stop.

 

[drumstick diva]

My late BIL was a horrendous smoker, both his daughters ended up with asthma & allergies, my sister. I watched while we all ate out and before he finished his meal he had 13 cigarette butts in the ashtray. This was well before the push for NO Smoking in public places.

He ended up having a minor heart attack. That scared him to death, he immediately quit cold turkey. Retired from his job. He was 9 years older than my sister. Of course everything fell on her, she had pretty much been supporting him. Their wedding cash went to pay off his gambling debts. He always had lousy jobs with no benefits and every time he lost a job - he would go out and buy an expensive car. My sister ended up in therapy for depression etc.- and had creditr cards maxed out because of him.

She had a very good job with the village and great insurance etc. Then she had a heart attack - the full blown kind. Was hospitalized etc. When she recovered she had to go on working full time to support him. She used to be a very strong, independent woman but, when she married him - he controlled everything.

He died 4 days before their 50th. anniversary., from lung cancer that had spread.

He was supposed to enter hospice care but when the nurse came to get him - he had passed away during the night. It was a terrible situation for her, it was her first patient, and of course for my sister and family.

It took some years but my sister regained her independence and starting doing all the things he had forbidden. She went out and got a dog, kept her car because she hardly drove it. She and her older daughter both live near each other and became the best of friends.

 

[drumstick diva]

Chicka I hope this was a big enough scare for your daughter to stop drinking. She is still young and she can turn her life around.

 

[chickadoodles]

Chicka I hope this was a big enough scare for your daughter to stop drinking. She is still young and she can turn her life around.

Thanks Diva. I hope and pray she does. I just called her nurse to let her know her husband bright her vodka in a soda bottle yesterday. But her sister stopped her from drinking it. She told her husband the Dr said she needed it to keep from going into seziers.
So now they can keep an eye on them and not allow anyone to bring any drinks into her room.

I'm sorry your sister had such a hard life. Some people just can't say no to their loved ones.
It's hard to watch for sure. I had 2 marriages that only lasted 3 years in all the years I was raising my kids. I dated very little and never brought them around my kids.
One of my DD asked me why I would not giver her a daddy one day.
It broke my heart but I told her it's not that easy. And it's not! I did not trust men or anyone with my girls!
When my kids were about grown I met my current dh and my youngest don lived with his dad by his chioce. I have been married a little over 7 years and hopefully for many more to come.

I never even drank in front of my kids.
And very rarely even had 1 drink.