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[bruceha2000]

Hubby thinks i should charge more but i just want to pay for my supplies right now, and maybe have a little $ for feed.

And maybe a little for the time you spend???

I m diffenetly will be one of your customers in the future of course, if that's ok, & I d give you lots of notice

And a big tip

@Latestarter - Not sure keeping DD in the will is "full disowning". Sounds like the right decision though.

@chickadoodles I'm no lawyer but I don't think the doctor can force your daughter to go to rehab. She is an adult and theoretically has the mental capacity to make her own decisions.

 

[microchick]

I've been away from it for a while but there are a whole list of patient's rights any more that lean to the favor of the patient even in extreme circumstances. Except, and I'm not exactly sure how it works any longer but if the patient is proven to be a threat to the safety of themselves or others, then there are officials who can get involved.

Guys, lets face it. You can pick your friends, you can even pick your enemies but you are just plain stuck with your family.

I came from a basically disfunctional family also. Too long of a story. My life began literally when I met my wonderful husband. I have no close immediate family, I haven't seen my adopted brother for over ten years. His choice. He married 'mommy'. I couldn't deal with another disfunctional family and finally just stopped caring and started being happy. My family is my husband, our 4 dogs, 5 cats and an ever changing number of chickens.

Life is good.

Chicka, all I can do is offer you a warm hug and tell you to take care of yourself first. Our minister once told us that a parent can put everything good into their children that they can but once the child reaches adulthood it is up to them to put those teachings either to good use or discard them.

To all of you with disfunctional, painful or just plain irritating families, you aren't alone.

Group hug!

 

[pennyJo1960]

Having lived through my own relationship with a alcoholic and my Ma doing the same I did not marry mine we dated 9 years before I said sorry no more.. he got a dui that night has never drank again, just to late for me .. Ma offered to write my step Dad a check for his part of the property he never drank again at 64 years old... it takes them wanting to stop we cannot make them

 

[Latestarter]

I still love my daughter Bruce. I wish her no harm. I wish her nothing but the best. But I will have nothing more to do with her, and do not want her in my life in any way, shape, or manner. You can in fact choose your family... I really kinda consider many here and on BYH as "family" of the "extended" sort.

You can't however choose your blood relations... Bright side is you CAN choose to have nothing more to do with them. Sorry... final point. Moving on to happier subjects.

I have a Dr. appt @ the VA tomorrow @ 11 am. They called today to verify I was coming and informed me that I ALSO have a 9am appt for lab work. Nice, this wasn't detailed on my printed appt schedule... SO I asked was this a fasting lab? well, of course you know it is... So, my dinner plans changed and I'm hungry. I normally eat late.

Oh well, on a high note, I may be a pound lighter at weigh in and can make up for lost caloric intake tomorrow after the ordeal is complete. Have been craving buffalo hot wings and NY style pizza... Maybe I'll do both? Planning on roasting a pork shoulder for the super bowl. That ought to be enjoyable as well.

Anyway, need to haul out ~6:30-7am latest to get animal chores done, shower, and get mobile. 2 hour drive to the VA. Cya later tomorrow. <--- for all those needing one.

 

[pennyJo1960]

I am already in bed and admit openly you are all closer and know more about me what I do, like or not than they do so life is good night all sleep well

 

[drumstick diva]

same here with me Penny.

 

[bruceha2000]

Cya later tomorrow.

Good luck, hope everything comes out with good numbers. Given the distance you have to drive, I imagine it is good they didn't schedule the lab tests any earlier.

 

[bruceha2000]

We heard a plow go by which doesn't usually happen for small amounts of snow and before 5 AM? Geez when we get real snow they don't show up until almost 7 AM. It wasn't supposed to snow much.

This is what I saw when I turned the light on to see how much so we got, not more than an inch or so. There are two nearly parallel trails behind the car that just stop, could be it went down a way then over, totally under then came back. The weird thing is I have no idea where this started.


Hmm, I see my camera is still on Daylight time.

 

[chickadoodles]

Ls I appreciate you sharing your experience with your DD.

I have all but disowned her. I do get to worked up over her.
She left the hospital yesterday.
I told my other kids I was not able to go to see her. I took lasix all day yesterday. And found the problem with my left side to be plursey.
I have thrown my DD #1 out of my house and told her she could never come back after she stole my money and the key to my safe and took all my meds.
I'm about there.... Trust me.
I told her sisters to stop helping her.
And we have all been waiting for her to hit rock bottom. Hoping she would get help.
I know it's coming and I hate it.
It breaks my heart.
Her husband thinks the now have a huge payday coming.
And that scares me!

 

[bruceha2000]

Pleurisy - not good. Glad they figured that out. Hopefully you will be feeling better soon.

Why does your daughter's husband think there is a huge payday coming?
I don't think one can ever really give up on their kids, not in their hearts anyway.