Think our oldest is drinking cough syrup...

[Chew593]

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Beekissed... you're a good egg.

 

[redhen]

I also really wonder about her friend being involved....For 6 bottles to be used...OR the friends are getting into the syrup and your daughter dosent even know...Its hard to say... But its kinda rare for an 11 yr old to do all that by herself....IMO

 

[ZepChick]

wow...in my opinion it is a really, really bad idea to spike the syrup with ipecac. You need to call a family meeting or go to your kids one on one and talk to them. Give her a chance to fess up and talk to you. I think you will facilitate an adolescence of her lying to you, if you show her by example it is OK to be deceitful and tricky. Be firm, let her no you will in no way tolerate her lying to you, or indulging in this behavior again. Lastly, it is most important (I think) to understand why she is doing this. I think 11 seems a little young to be doing this sort of thing, but maybe I am wrong. I would also strongly recommend counseling, probably family counseling with some individual sessions for her. Good luck, I think this would be such a difficult thing to deal with and I hope it turns out OK for you and your little girl.

 

[Beekissed]

Thank you, Chew! On this forum, that is indeed a compliment!

I'm a nurse, I have kids....boys, if you know what I mean. It's a full time job with double over time if you want them to make it to adulthood. If I hadn't had the good Lord to help me, I never could have done it. My youngest is still 17 and not exactly easy to watch over. So far, so good, but this could happen to any of us.

I'm glad the OP posted this. I'm sure not a lot of folks know about this sort of thing. It's happening more and more, all over America. Simple household things that kids are using to get high. Who would have imagined that an 11 year old would want or need to escape reality by raiding the medicine chest?

In the end, we have only a little control over what our kids do when we are not around. Prayer and faith that God is in control when we cannot be is the only hope we have in today's world, you know?

E4S speaks from experience, it seems. Wise to listen to the voice of experience, folks.

 

[Feathered Wings]

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I did not know this!!!!
My son who is 17 had a funny habit of always having markers last school year.
When i noticed they kept showing up and he even took the ones i had i asked him to stop.
I just thought he had a fascination with markers he did color all over his notebook.
But when i would find them on his desk and would throw them away another always showed up and took it's place.
I thought it a little weird but he didn't have markers over summer vacation and now hes back at school.
I saw 2 big black sharpies on his desk today and thought why are these markers starting up again.
I don't know i may have to have a talk with him in the morning to see whats going on if anything

Thanks for this info

 

[Cetawin]

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Exactly my thoughts! It will be a drink she would regret and one she would remember from then on. When it comes to medications, even over-the-counter or prescription...take no junk because it can lead to worse things.

Let her throw up a few times after drinking ipecac or run to the toilet 20 times or so with the cod liver oil. It will not kill her but it will get a point through.

I would do it...if my daughter did not care enough about her well-being and was doing something like that, I would not feel bad at all about enlightening her to the consequences of ingesting something that is not specifically given to you.

 

[Cetawin]

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Dang skippy! I also have a keystroke program on this little gem. Every single word she types is sent to me. At 13, there is too much trouble out there that can find her.

 

[Whispering Winds]

Our DS was 12 when he would sneak a drink (he had it bought for him, as we never kept it in the house) before he went to school and we never had a clue until he was 16 and got a DUI three mos. after he got his license. He is now 33, and I think will always have an issue with alcohol, but works, goes to school, and is a contributing human being to this world. His cousin who was older helped, his friends sneaked it from their house, and of course, there is the guys who would buy it for them at the liquor store with no cares whatsoever about what they were doing. This happened 20 years ago, and I still seethe with rage when I think about those grown men doing that for the kids in this area.

We ate supper with our kids every night, we went to every school function they were in, church, PTO, and outside school activities, and they still managed to get into various types of trouble. Being a "good" family is no guarantee that things are going to be ok. Or easy, or happy. We had 5 teens at the same time, and I would never want to go back to that era for nothing. Toddlers yes, teens NO!

Talk to your daughter; gently let her know the "jig" is up; you know. I can't help but think there are some other kids involved in this and she is not only partaking, but giving it out. One thing I learned from my experiences with your kids friends is this. I don't care how cute they are, how funny, they are, or how many times they compliment you or your cookies or your meatloaf, they will be true to your child until the death. Are you good enough friends with the mother of her best friend to sort of casually inquire about how her daughter has been lately?

I have 4 granddaughters now, and I see the stress and disharmony that everyday life hands out to them. School expects so much of them, My Space, Facebook, and cell phones, Ipods, MP3 players, fashion magazines . . .its endless the stress and wants that are put upon them. Little girls having sex when they are 11, whether we want to admit it or not. Kids having sex in our homes because mom and dad both have t work and aren't home for a couple of hours after school lets out . . .its endless and terrifying.
And God help the child that doesn't have these things; as their friends can be cruel and relentless in their distain. My 15 yr. old granddaughter just got her first cell phone, and all she can do is text, and she earns her own money to buy the card for it every month, so needless to say she is very appreciative of it, and values it immensely. . .I don't believe in kids having cell phones before that age to be honest; carpal tunnel is rampant, can't imagine why with all that texting, video games and computer keyboards . . .no wonder kids are stressed.

Good luck with your little darling daughter. I cannot tell you how sad it makes me to see her losing her childhood because of this, IF it is what you think. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time!!!

 

[insiderart]

I can tell you that at 11 depression can be a real issue, and she could be self medicating. Sounds like more than "trying it out".

You need to find out why? When? Where? Who else? and every other little thing. I believe she will need counseling, and you all will probably need family counseling. Even if you lock it up at home, she can get anything, and I mean anything, she wants at school. Kids will lie, cheat, steal, sell their bodies, whatever they have to to get their "high", you'd be suprised.

You need to find out why she is wanting to "check out". Is she depressed? Did it start out as a fun thing to do with friends? Is she doing it alone? This is also the age at which some other disorders can appear. Bipolar, manic/depression, various other things which cause people to self medicate.

I think you have a lot of work ahead of you. I also think that if you "hide" this from "grandma" you also teach her to "hide" embarrassing information from you. If it's not ok to discuss this, it must be something to be horribly ashamed of, thereby adding even more pressure...

*hugs* and good luck.

 

[Chick_a_dee]

I have a friend who pops advil like it's candy, and other over the counters like shes dying. There is nothing wrong with her, she feels she needs to numb herself. She has a lot of problems. Talk to her, don't just take it away. I think the biggest problem my friend had was that her mom went ballistic when she realized Kayla was popping advil and expired scripts. Sure, it's bad, and she needs help, but going ballistic or sneeking around is not going to help.

Sit down with her, talk to her, try to figure out what is wrong.