Think our oldest is drinking cough syrup...

[Fudgie]

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Glad to hear that but did you go hug her goodnight and see if she was red lipped??

 

[chicks4kids]

Yes, in fact, I did go in to see if she was red lipped!!

I even turned on her light, woke her up and asked her a question so I could see inside of her mouth............

I have to laugh because I laughed at myself for doing it...thank goodness others think like me!!

I'm just so happy tonight knowing she knew it was there and didn't drink it......we'll see about tomorrow.

Thanks everyone!!!!!!

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

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You failed to mention the feeling of absolute helplessness the outcasts feel. The ones who want to live their own lives and not have to live up to their peers expectations. The ones that don't want to fit into the crowd. Those people, girls ESPECIALLY, are cornered by the popular girls and ridiculed, some to the point of gum put into hair, spit on, rocks thrown at, laughed at not-so-discreetly laughed at in the hallways.

The worst part is that all the boys in the school follow the popular girls and begin ridiculing the same people. Then all the wanna-be populars do the same thing. Eventually, the person that's being ridiculed no longer wants to go to school, shuts down emotionally and is scared of what people are saying.

It is an awful thing that happens, but those that live through it are stronger and more able to face the world at large. They have already endured some of the most painful examples of hatred that are out there.

 

[Laurieks]

1. It's possible DD doesn't realize there's a problem with taking Nyquil etc.

I believe in innocence first. She might not even know it contains alcohol.
2. I take Magnesium Glycinate (from Metagenics) when I can't sleep, or Calcium/Magnesium/Zinc from Trader Joe's (all over California... not sure how far across the country they are now), or a big glass of milk.
3. My 14 year old son says 'lock it up & talk to her about it, not necessarily in that order'. DH says 'lock it up first'
4. I agree with DS, Communication is key, and honesty. If she denies it then you might need the food coloring. There is a reason Ipecac is harder to find these days; it can be dangerous. Even if it does no harm, the nausea goes on long after the stomach is empty; she would feel betrayed and alienated and we all should know where that road can lead.
5. I would find a good Naturopath, as well as counseling & Pedi consultation (depending on how the first conversation goes.. see #1)
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& blessings to your whole family (who knows, Gram might even have some pearls of wisdom, and acceptance)

7. aww shucks I took so long typing that I missed you trying the dye. I still say talk first.
8. <<quote...I also transport students to church schools and a lot is going on there too...>>DH says he got la*d more in church camp than anywhere else in his LIFE.

 

[JanieMarie]

That's good news that she didn't drink it but in my opinion this approach is being as sneaky and untruthful as shes being. I guess I just think these things should be dealt with openly and HONESTLY. And right away. It could be just curiosity and experimentation at this point but there could also be a WHY behind it. Even something as simple as anxiety and stress where the cough medicine is making her feel better and more able to cope. Good luck!

 

[chicks4kids]

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I see your point-but I have to know for sure--and not let her blame it on a friend. I don't want to accuse her and not know for sure because that truly would be worse than this. I do understand how you feel about deceiving her/tricking her....but it is only tricking her IF she is drinking it. If she's not, it's simply a bottle of Nyquil with food dye in it. I would absolutely hate to accuse her if it were NOT true.

 

[PortageGirl]

LOL, I know from stories my mom told me later just how sneaky and observant she was in keeping tabs on me, while not always calling me on every little thing. She picked her battles and always amazed me with how she KNEW the TRUTH about EVERYTHING!!! We know it wasn't psychic ability, but back then, I figured it had to be! You do what you think is best Chicks4! It sounds like she's luckier than lots of kiddos with you to look out for her and love her.

 

[JanieMarie]

I guess imo deceit is deceit. Has she been trustworthy till this point? I think it wouldn't be a good idea to give her reason not to trust your actions. Could you bring up the subject and ask her about it in such a way that it isn't accusing her so she feels backed in a corner? Maybe talk to her about what could possibly be bothering her that could make her seek something to escape or feel better. I feel for you. It is very scary raising kids in these times. And as much as we want to do the right thing, the right thing very often isn't apparent.

 

[JanieMarie]

Oh yea and if it doesn't get drunk Next time you get sick don't forget else you won't need lipstick for awhile! lol

 

[chicks4kids]

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No, she has not been trustworthy. She likes to tell those "not quite the truth, but not quite a lie" stories. So trustworthiness is not an option here. Right now, that bottle of Nyquil in the cabinet is only that. A bottle of Nyquil. Which she knows she has to ask if she can take if she is ill. If she doesn't ask, I will know it-now.

I do truly see your point, but at this point, it's not deceit. If she drinks it, she will have deceived me, knowing she must ask me FIRST before taking any medication, if she drinks it, I have the RIGHT as a mother to do whatever it takes to prove it. I think you're lucky, having 3 girls yourself, to not have gone through this, but I do NOT believe I am deceiving her. If she chooses to drink that bottle of food coloring, then she is deceiving me. Lying to me. Abusing my trust.