- Oct 18, 2007
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I too grew up in a house where my father never had anything nice to say about anything I did. Every decision I made was wrong and nothing was ever good enough. I was angry and resentful for a long time, yet part of me kept trying to please him so he would finally be proud of me. One day I realized that I did not have to love him just because he's related to me. I realized that I am a good person...and he is not.
His opinions didn't matter because they weren't coming from someone I respect. As soon as I was old enough, I removed him from my life.
Everyone told me I was a monster, he's my Dad, etc.
I felt like a great weight had lifted and I know I made the right decision.
This may not be right for you, but my point is, don't let anyone shake you from your confidence in yourself. You know you are a good person, there is nothing wrong with you that makes you father behave so badly, it's him. Not everyone is a great parent or even a decent human being. It sounds like your Dad has some serious problems and you're a scapegoat. Hopefully, your Mom will help you through this, if not, try to find another person you trust so you have someone to talk to......
I hope things get better for you.....
His opinions didn't matter because they weren't coming from someone I respect. As soon as I was old enough, I removed him from my life.
Everyone told me I was a monster, he's my Dad, etc.
I felt like a great weight had lifted and I know I made the right decision.
This may not be right for you, but my point is, don't let anyone shake you from your confidence in yourself. You know you are a good person, there is nothing wrong with you that makes you father behave so badly, it's him. Not everyone is a great parent or even a decent human being. It sounds like your Dad has some serious problems and you're a scapegoat. Hopefully, your Mom will help you through this, if not, try to find another person you trust so you have someone to talk to......
I hope things get better for you.....
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