My philosophy in life is this - people who screw me over are out. There are way too many nice people and friends yet to be made to worry over one dolt who is so miserable in their life that they feel the need to drain my life joy.
I walk away and don't look back. Your soon to be ex is a manipulator and control freak. He seems to enjoy keeping you baited and hooked - look how long it's been going on. Nothing is going to change. You need to (said lovingly and with a hug) move on. Allow caller ID to assist you with the change you need to make. Caller ID is why I have control - I choose to answer and I choose who to ignore. If someone wants me, they can leave a message. I can then choose to listen to the message and then determine a course of action - whether or not I return the call.
Without going into any detail, I've had a very traumatic event in my life involving a family member. I found that when I told that person how I felt and they knew what I was thinking, they were able to manipulate and continue to harrass me. I was a basket case - depressed, sad and angry. I cried without warning and I felt so vulnerable. When I decided to walk away and not look back, I chose to take control. The power belongs to the one in control. The one who has control is the one who has the knowledge. When I chose to no longer share my feelings or acknowledge this person, at first they became very defensive and irate. Then they tried hard to crack me. Then they got really angry. When the person realized I was not playing their game any longer and they finally figured out I wasn't gonna crack, it changed the game. It's been 8 years. I do not share my feelings, what I am doing, where I am going, what's going on in my life and now that they realize they cannot control me, they leave me alone.
What I'm saying is that the pattern has been established and it's not going to change unless you choose to change. I'm here if you want to talk - I gave you my number - I encourage you to square your shoulders and take charge. Let your ex leave a message and you decide when you will return the call.
I walk away and don't look back. Your soon to be ex is a manipulator and control freak. He seems to enjoy keeping you baited and hooked - look how long it's been going on. Nothing is going to change. You need to (said lovingly and with a hug) move on. Allow caller ID to assist you with the change you need to make. Caller ID is why I have control - I choose to answer and I choose who to ignore. If someone wants me, they can leave a message. I can then choose to listen to the message and then determine a course of action - whether or not I return the call.
Without going into any detail, I've had a very traumatic event in my life involving a family member. I found that when I told that person how I felt and they knew what I was thinking, they were able to manipulate and continue to harrass me. I was a basket case - depressed, sad and angry. I cried without warning and I felt so vulnerable. When I decided to walk away and not look back, I chose to take control. The power belongs to the one in control. The one who has control is the one who has the knowledge. When I chose to no longer share my feelings or acknowledge this person, at first they became very defensive and irate. Then they tried hard to crack me. Then they got really angry. When the person realized I was not playing their game any longer and they finally figured out I wasn't gonna crack, it changed the game. It's been 8 years. I do not share my feelings, what I am doing, where I am going, what's going on in my life and now that they realize they cannot control me, they leave me alone.
What I'm saying is that the pattern has been established and it's not going to change unless you choose to change. I'm here if you want to talk - I gave you my number - I encourage you to square your shoulders and take charge. Let your ex leave a message and you decide when you will return the call.
