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today would be my 6 year anniversary... pic heavy

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by AHappychick, Dec 6, 2009.

  1. AHappychick

    AHappychick Wanna-be Farmer

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    Every day is hard, every day I miss AJ terribly as if I am missing a limb. Today is our anniversary coincidentally today is also the first weekend with out my roommate who was AJ's best friend as he just moved out to live with his girlfriend. So for the first time since it all happened i am alone it was bound to happen sometime I suppose.

    Anyway Today is the anniversary. of the happiest day of my life and although it is very bitter for me now I did want to post some pics of the person I once was and of us together and the perfect life I once had. I am aware that even though my bliss was short I was very happy for many years and I know some people never get that, and for every second I had with AJ I am grateful.

    Some pics are of our wedding & bachelor party and the others are either honey moon, or the last trip we took 8 days before the accident where we were in Bermuda celebrating our last "baby free vacation"

    Please I am not looking for sympathy here, not sure why I am even posting this, but I did want to show off some pics today. In a little while I will send my ds to my sisters and go to the cemetery to plant a new Christmas tree and have a picnic with AJ.

    Oh and please dont tell me I will find someone else and that I am young. I have no interest having tried dating a few times and really feel better when I can go around pretending like AJ is on some very long business trip that he will eventually return from (when I pass) .

    I guess normally I would walk over to my roomate's room and talk about AJ today but with him gone I needed some other outlet to release these feelings. Enjoy the pics [​IMG]


    my favorite pi of AJ taken by me on the way to Hawaii for our honeymoon. He is still wearing his wedding hat which he wore often (good thing I bought it rather than renting it with his tux [​IMG]) The look he is giving me in this pic is just so typical of the loving expressions he would give me.

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    Bachelor bachelorette party pics. Rather than having a separate party for each of us we had our party together. We rented the only Ford F150 Harley Davidson Pick-up stretch limo and piled all of our friends in it and headed to the nay-nay club. BTW that is my roommate in between me and AJ in the pic

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    here is a few pics of the wedding. He was so handsome it was a blizzard that day and there was over 5 feet of snow on the ground and it was still coming down when we finally made it to the church. Although things were a little rough i was so happy the whole time that I did not care and thought it was amazing that people had really risked injury driving to celebrate it with us.

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    every 6 months from the time we started dating AJ and I would take a vacation and get away from it all. We shared all of the same activities and loved the same sort of things so we always had the best time when it was just us. People used to say you should start saving for a family and our response was you oly live once. We did not realize how right we were and because we always did what we wanted and bought the toys we wanted when he died I had no regrets knowing we had squeezed a lifetime of living in the 7 years we were together. Our last trip was to Bermuda and I highly recommend elbow beach where we stayed for 2 weeks. By this time we had decided to start a family and I was just under 7 months preggers.

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    I first met AJ when I was 4 years old. We had the same playmates and later as I got older I would trow rocks at him from my friends back yard which was right next to his.
    AJ used to say that he wanted to date me in high school but that I did not think he was cool enough, not true as I did not think about it at all in those days and never noticed that he liked me. It is funny how we can be with our soul mate years earlier and never know it. When I moved back to my home town in my 20's AJ found out and searched me out. he then made it a point for me to notice him which this time I did, and well we were together ever since.
     
    Last edited: Dec 6, 2009
  2. Bec

    Bec THE Delaware Blue Hen

    Wow, so I can't say that didn't bring tears to my eyes, but I thought it was beautiful. I agree that you were so lucky to have found a love like that and had the chance to experience that. The 2 of you looked so happy.


    Thank you for posting this, What a great way to remember all the good times. You are such a strong person to have gone through what you have gone through and still be able to cherish those precious memories! [​IMG]
     
  3. citalk2much

    citalk2much Twilight Blessings Farm

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    I am at a loss as what to say I can't even began to know your loss. I can tell you are a strong person. Go with grace today
     
  4. Katy

    Katy Flock Mistress

    I am so sorry that you have had to go thru this. Life is not fair sometimes. Your heart will know if and when you're ready for someone new to share your life with.
     
  5. CityGirlintheCountry

    CityGirlintheCountry Green Eggs and Hamlet

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  6. Southernbelle

    Southernbelle Gone Broody

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    What a beautiful story about your love! The happiness and love you both had just radiates around you! I'm sorry that he was taken from you so young. [​IMG]
     
  7. Overeasyplz

    Overeasyplz Chillin' With My Peeps

    Nov 8, 2009
    Leesburg
    how beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss. [​IMG]
     
  8. WriterofWords

    WriterofWords Has Fainting Chickens

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    What wonderful pics! Go out today and spend some time today with AJ. Sit and talk to him like he is right there next to you and since he is still in your heart he IS right there with you. Losing someone does not mean forgetting or trying to replace them, it just changes the aspect of the relationship. We need to embrace the essence of that person and what they meant to us and love them just the same as we did when they were physically with us.
     
  9. trilyn

    trilyn Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 13, 2009
    East Syracuse
    Wow, that brought tears to my eyes. You can definitely tell the love between the two of you-it jumps right out of the photos and it's very beautiful and touching. You truly were soulmates and that is a gift from God. [​IMG] God bless you today and all the rest to come.
     
  10. ranchhand

    ranchhand Rest in Peace 1956-2011

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    Quote:[​IMG] a million times over. He lives on in your head and heart.
     

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