Toddlers are Quackers

[BantyChooks]

I think that a lot of transgender stuff has arisen because of parents being unwilling to let their little boys touch purple/pink/glittery toys and girls touch tools/cars/dinosaurs etc. "If I like flowers, I must be a girl!" "If I like building stuff, I must be a boy!" I built stuff, dug for worms, fished, enjoyed cleaning fish ('cause I could work on identifying the organs!), used a bow and arrow, etc. I was mad that boys could run around shirtless and I couldn't, but aside from that, I always knew I was a girl.

X many. I think blathering about choice and emphasizing you don't have to be whatever's in your pants at preschool could well be harmful, but there is not a single reason why toys have to be segregated. I don't know about the average bear, but I tried to do what adults suggested or told me about when I was a child. That would have quite confused me, to say the least.

I happened to like playing with dolls when I was a kid. I also happened to like putting said dolls on trucks, zooming them around, or making mudballs and ambushing my siblings. My brother had a doll, and he did not grow to be a confused adult.

Once you have grown then you get to do whatever you want, I guess. Hey, some people try to make themselves look like lizards, switching genders seems positively tame compared to that!

I'm trying to teach my son to keep his privates private, and open-plan bathrooms would be a no-go for me, unisex or not. I'd have no problem with unisex bathrooms - if every toilet/urinal had a stall with a well-fitted, locking door that extends a good way towards the floor. No problem with washing your hands in the same room as the opposite sex.

Quite agreed.

 

[Phage]

I suspect that at least 50% of women if not more, consider that they were tomboys as kids, and what toys kids play with/interests are irrelevant. Hormones don't really kick in till puberty anyway so it seems inappropriate to stress small kids with issues of sex and gender identity.

That all said there are a handful of young people who genuinely feel they are assigned the wrong sex, and strongly know this from an early age. Not a learnt thing, but because their brain really is different.
These RARE people do need kindness, acceptance and time to figure things out. They also do NOT need sex Ed as small chidren to know they are different. Just dignity and support.

There was a 15 year old freshman at my son's school last year who got himself shot and killed by police (at 3.00am at the school). He was quiet, smart, helped his peers with homework and by all accounts appeared to be the "perfect kid" .
We were never told why he did it or what is suicide note said (per parents wishes) but from what the school said it sounded like he felt differently about himself. So tragic.

 

[DwayneNLiz]

i remember you telling us about him, very sad indeed

 

[Cyneswith]

Morning, all!

My daughter is currently crying because I unceremoniously ate one of the sausages she declared "too spicy."

 

[BullChick]

 

[DwayneNLiz]

@MotorcycleChick too little

 

[DwayneNLiz]

Good Morning Abi

and all

 

[BullChick]

I know. I was trying to save space.
Better?

 

[DwayneNLiz]

LOL

 

[BullChick]

Duckling made supper.