Too mature for my age?/tired of being friendless

[NewHopePoultry]

Im 21, married, have a baby and own our own home.
Most other people my age are still in the party all night,etc stage.
Ive always acted older then my age and therefore have never had a true friend my age. Ive had much oder friends(Like 10+ years)
Ive never gotten along with people my age. I think the parting thing is dumb and had no problem saying so.
Well my last friend I had moved away, so now Im loney.
Ive tried reaching out to old classmates and stuff, but since I dont do the things they do, they dont want to be friends.
I tried talking to an old friend of mine, who has is married and has a baby, but she is still acting like she is in highschool.
I know I shouldnt judge people, but I cant help it, people need to grow up.
The only people I can call friends are my family and the people I talk to on the internet.

 

[Zahboo]

have you ever thought of doing playdates with your kids. You can find people with common priorities and possibly interests.

 

[Illia]

Join the club. I'm actually only 19, and all the people I know and knew my age are still into the social, young, partying, college or highschool type culture and life. . . And here I am, seeming to convince my new customers I'm in my 20's while I run an entire a farm by myself.

- Thus, I don't have any true friends right now and even when in school didn't really have true friends, just people I got along with.

 

[rebelcowboysnb]

21 Is a hard age. Everyone younger than you you cant hang with because they want to do things that would now get you thrown in jail. Everyone older has just been threw the 21 an under divide an is spending there time with the older people that they know now. Im still single in my 30s an still think the early 20s were hard socially.

 

[happyhensny]

I used to bring my kids to the local library for storytime when they were little. It was nice for the kids to play and interact with others and I met some other Moms that had similiar interests. It also helped when it was time for my kids to start school. They already knew other kids and it was a nicer transition.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

Does age really matter? It doesn't to me and I have had the same issues. Now I am pretty much around older and younger rarely anyone my age. I just don't LIKE people my age

 

[fargosmom]

Hey Marebear -
I think having a baby must be one of the most isolating things out there. Much of your time is spent caring for your baby, and that doesn't leave a lot of you-time. Makes it hard to make an adult connection of any kind. It's also really hard to make a friend when that's your primary goal, if that makes any sense. But here's a thought - if your baby is old enough to leave at a day-care, or a relative's or friend's house for a couple of hours, try seeing if there is an opportunity for you to do some volunteer work near your home. It would give you some adult time, doing something fulfilling that you might enjoy, and it would give you an opportunity to meet people without the immediate "lets be friends" pressure. Maybe look into an animal rescue group, or Habitat for Humanity, or . . . . but hang in there - it really does get better. Be your own best friend first, and concentrate on what makes you happy on your own, and you will be in the right place when someone like-minded comes along.

 

[debilorrah]

Ms Marebear I have to tell you one of the nicest people I have ever met was here on BYC and she is young enough to be my daughter. She is sooo stinkin smart it isn't even funny!!! And we have alot in common!!! Young people can have a mind that is older and apparently you do. Seek friendships in areas that you have interest in with no requirement of age, and you will fit in.

 

[debilorrah]

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I SOOOO agree with this!!! I stayed home with my son for a whopping 5 months before I went back to work, or go out of my mind! I would go to the park with him and everyone was all about competition. I went nuts!!! I still am.

 

[NewHopePoultry]

Thanks everyone.
Age really doesnt matter to me, but I feel like I am in the middle. Everyone younger only wants to be my friend so I can buy them beer and stuff.
my goal really isnt to find a best friend or anything, just someone to talk to who likes the same things as me, etc.