Too mature for my age?/tired of being friendless

[NewHopePoultry]

its not really so much about age, but I am so SHY and find it hard to talk to people.
I've lived in the same small town forever and everyone pretty much thinks Im anti-social or something.
Once Kate is a bit older, I will try going to groups and stuff with her and see how that goes.

 

[EweSheep]

I was that way and somewhat still is......

Had my Katie at 39 years old while most of my friends were already married and teenagers in tow. And some of them are expecting grandkids! Where did that time go????? I am more comfortable with older folks than I do with younger kids but the BYC folks are wonderful, regardless of age!

 

[debilorrah]

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I know that shyness is a personality component. My son WAS the same way. I told him to just take a step, say something! You will either get a response or not - and it is on the OTHER person. It is nothing you did or said. He still comes home at 20 years old with stories of how he embarassed himself, but I can tell you this. He has alot more friends now that he makes taking a step a common practice.

 

[smith2]

I was very much the very same way and still am. I feel like I have been a mature adult my whole life. Some people think that because I teach school children everyday that I must be outgoing and extroverted and I am not. When I get home at night, dynamite can't get me out of the house. I need some interaction but I can't do it all the time. I don't have a lot of adult friends either, not sure whether it is because I am just too tired to make any or just don't have anything in common with them. I also get strange looks from people when I tell them chickens are my hobby.

I wish I could make some better friends on the BYC forum and since I love to travel, I could go see them in their part of the country. I don't think age really has anything to do with it. The few friends I have are serious, deep-thinkers, and good conversationalists, and frequently express the same sentiments that I do about relationships. My DH is alot like me. Maybe that is why we have been married for 28 years.

 

[1stepcloser]

Take heart. I totally understand. That was my pattern all my life...I am now 39 and one of my best friends is turning 60 day. ((shrug))

 

[Bec]

I know exactly how you feel marebear! I was engaged at 19,had my son at 20, moved in to my first house right before he was born and was married by 22, had my daughter at 23. So a 23 year old married mother of 2...not so common. i am going to be 30 this summer.I didn't have a lot of friends to begin with so after I had my son I felt extra lonely when my friend of 8 years had her baby and moved away with her new husband. I never really did make more friends until he was older and I started working part time. I am not such a social person, not into drinking/drugs/partying..never have been. My husband became my best friend and my mom. I don't know what I would do without them! I have a couple (meaning about 2) good friends now, but one doesn't live anywhere near me and the other I get to see every so often. It is not easy to have a baby and maintain a social life. Everyone here suggested some good ideas to help find people with the same things in common. My problem was finding people who have family AND animals in common with me