trusted my kids with a pervert. very upset.

[redhen]

Quote:
BTW, he had raped one girl, but she couldn't prove it.
I'm still outraged about that experience, and frankly after personally talking to 50 sets of parents of small children who were victimized , I'm sitting here wondering how many of you would have let him walk rather than be willing to go/testify in a court against him. Talk is cheap.

Joe.. I can guarantee you that i would NEVER let anyone walk if they did this to my chid..or ANY child. If i didnt kill them(not joking..)..... i would make SURE they were convicted...
You see, this is my job... This is the field that i work in...(only with kids..)
I know how vitally important it is to get these creeps on the registry.. So they can at LEAST be somewhat tracked...

I cant stand these WEAK laws that they have for these sickos.... they get a little slap on the wrist for destroying peoples lives.
If only I could make the laws.. *sigh* .. once you are convicted of a sex crime you would NEVER see the light of day again... no chance of ever getting out of prison to harm someone else... because they WILL do it again.(you can NOT cure a sex offender.. all they can do is give them therapy 'tools' to use when they get the urge to offend again

.... AND.. its a JOKE!!.. trust me..).. they only get smarter from prison and wont get caught again..

They should ALL be locked up somewhere and never be set free again... And i mean that with all my heart.


ETA: My little brother was molested when he was a child (for years)..
The guy worked at the Boys Club in Florida... he did this for MANY years and to many children... and noone had a clue.

 

[joebryant]

Quote:
BTW, he had raped one girl, but she couldn't prove it.
I'm still outraged about that experience, and frankly after personally talking to 50 sets of parents of small children who were victimized , I'm sitting here wondering how many of you would have let him walk rather than be willing to go/testify in a court against him. Talk is cheap.

Joe.. I can guarantee you that i would NEVER let anyone walk if they did this to my chid..or ANY child. If i didnt kill them(not joking..)..... i would make SURE they were convicted...
You see, this is my job... This is the field that i work in...(only with kids..)
I know how vitally important it is to get these creeps on the registry.. So they can at LEAST be somewhat tracked...

I cant stand these WEAK laws that they have for these sickos.... they get a little slap on the wrist for destroying peoples lives.
If only I could make the laws.. *sigh* .. once you are convicted of a sex crime you would NEVER see the light of day again... no chance of ever getting out of prison to harm someone else... because they WILL do it again.(you can NOT cure a sex offender.. all they can do is give them therapy 'tools' to use when they get the urge to offend again

.... AND.. its a JOKE!!.. trust me..).. they only get smarter from prison and wont get caught again..

They should ALL be locked up somewhere and never be set free again... And i mean that with all my heart.


ETA: My little brother was molested when he was a child (for years)..
The guy worked at the Boys Club in Florida... he did this for MANY years and to many children... and noone had a clue.

That's the way everyone should feel about predators of children. Luckily he only exposed himself to my two while they were playing in parking lot after school. What he did to a lot of other children, boys and girls, ... I'm sure you can imagine. It's just unbelievable none of the 50 parents would press charges and work to have him put away permanently, let alone sit at home and see him go free to continue. He did move within a week because I would go down everyday and walk around where he lived. I had already told him that I would kill him if he ever bothered Rex and Katy again in any way, and he knew to believe me. He had definitely grabbed, blindfolded and raped a teenage girl in the neighborhood, and she described his behavior/personality to a tee, but she couldn't identify him, so the prosecutor could not bring charges.

 

[redhen]

Quote:
Joe.. I can guarantee you that i would NEVER let anyone walk if they did this to my chid..or ANY child. If i didnt kill them(not joking..)..... i would make SURE they were convicted...
You see, this is my job... This is the field that i work in...(only with kids..)
I know how vitally important it is to get these creeps on the registry.. So they can at LEAST be somewhat tracked...

I cant stand these WEAK laws that they have for these sickos.... they get a little slap on the wrist for destroying peoples lives.
If only I could make the laws.. *sigh* .. once you are convicted of a sex crime you would NEVER see the light of day again... no chance of ever getting out of prison to harm someone else... because they WILL do it again.(you can NOT cure a sex offender.. all they can do is give them therapy 'tools' to use when they get the urge to offend again

.... AND.. its a JOKE!!.. trust me..).. they only get smarter from prison and wont get caught again..

They should ALL be locked up somewhere and never be set free again... And i mean that with all my heart.


ETA: My little brother was molested when he was a child (for years)..
The guy worked at the Boys Club in Florida... he did this for MANY years and to many children... and noone had a clue.

That's the way everyone should feel about predators of children. Luckily he only exposed himself to my two while they were playing in parking lot after school. What he did to a lot of other children, boys and girls, ... I'm sure you can imagine. It's just unbelievable none of the 50 parents would press charges and work to have him put away permanently, let alone sit at home and see him go free to continue. He did move within a week because I would go down everyday and walk around where he lived. I had already told him that I would kill him if he ever bothered Rex and Katy again in any way, and he knew to believe me. He had definitely grabbed, blindfolded and raped a teenage girl in the neighborhood, and she described his behavior/personality to a tee, but she couldn't identify him, so the prosecutor could not bring charges.

And the MORE scary part...
You know that he went on to harm more children after he moved ...

 

[FireTigeris]

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I kinda disagree.... about the good touch bad touch part... everything else is bang on... when young children are being taught about good touch and bad touch it can confuse them... some times the "bad touch" gets confused with the "good touch" while being abused it can feel good to them as in the sexual arousal part but of course they dont know what the heck is going on to them its not sexual.. it hmmm this feels good ... so it will go unreported.. they associate the "bad touch" with being hurt as in pain ...

each method is different for teaching your kids.. in our house we have a wide variety of medical backgrounds here so using proper terminology in this house it nothing new, but in some homes they cant be that open and thats ok.. no one wants to feel uncomfortable... my SIL uses the bathing suit rule... NO one has the right to touch you or look at you where a girls bathing suit would cover. If the doctor needs to look there mommy or daddy will be right there

"bad touch" is when anybody touches or looks at the potty places on purpose, You tell me. Even if they tell you that its a secret, its not a secret for you and me... you tell me any time some ever tries to touch a potty place. Even a coach, or a teacher or a friend. Doctor (name of pediatrician) can look/touch IF the potty pace is sick and we go for that.

Also tell me if any potty places get red or itch or burn or sting.

((spelling))

 

[EweSheep]

joebryantThe guy worked at the Boys Club in Florida... he did this for MANY years and to many children... and noone had a clue.[/quote :


That's the way everyone should feel about predators of children. Luckily he only exposed himself to my two while they were playing in parking lot after school. What he did to a lot of other children, boys and girls, ... I'm sure you can imagine. It's just unbelievable none of the 50 parents would press charges and work to have him put away permanently, let alone sit at home and see him go free to continue. He did move within a week because I would go down everyday and walk around where he lived. I had already told him that I would kill him if he ever bothered Rex and Katy again in any way, and he knew to believe me. He had definitely grabbed, blindfolded and raped a teenage girl in the neighborhood, and she described his behavior/personality to a tee, but she couldn't identify him, so the prosecutor could not bring charges.

O M G!!!!!!!

Castrate and hang him from the tree until it falls off!

REally 50 parents??????!!!!!!!!!!!! What the h*** were they smoking on?????????? 50 times too many!!!!!!!!!!!​

 

[littlefarm_bighappy]

Quote:
BTW, he had raped one girl, but she couldn't prove it.
I'm still outraged about that experience, and frankly after personally talking to 50 sets of parents of small children who were victimized , I'm sitting here wondering how many of you would have let him walk rather than be willing to go/testify in a court against him. Talk is cheap.

I have been the child no one believed, to the point my mom MADE me go back in the room alone with my creepy Uncle.


Believe me, I don't talk about what I would do if I found out *anyone*- family included- touched my child.

And I am already the hated one because i refuse to keep silent about the guilty . I have already sacrificed a lot because I refuse to lower my standards when it comes to protecting my children.

i was just called "nuts" and "crazy" just the other day by my mom, who HELPED my uncle out on his sick mission.

 

[littlefarm_bighappy]

Quote:
BTW, he had raped one girl, but she couldn't prove it.
I'm still outraged about that experience, and frankly after personally talking to 50 sets of parents of small children who were victimized , I'm sitting here wondering how many of you would have let him walk rather than be willing to go/testify in a court against him. Talk is cheap.

I have been the child no one believed, to the point my mom MADE me go back in the room alone with my creepy Uncle.


Believe me, I don't talk about what I would do if I found out *anyone*- family included- touched my child.

And I am already the hated one because i refuse to keep silent about the guilty . I have already sacrificed a lot because I refuse to lower my standards when it comes to protecting my children.

i was just called "nuts" and "crazy" just the other day by my mom, who HELPED my uncle out on his sick mission.

 

[gogoalie]

chickensducks&agoose :

Just found out that they guy who ran a Gymnastics class in our area was arrested for videotaping his teenaged stepdaughter while she showered. He hid the camera in a basket so she didn't know... this went on for YEARS. anyway, my 2 girls went to camp there this summer, and I was there too, most of the time He carried my little one around a lot, which I thought was a little odd, but I never, EVER got the creepy vibes from him. I mean, yeah, i thought it was a little strange that a grown man would choose a profession involving the handling of young girls in tight leotards, but he just didn't seem pervy. well, guess I was wrong. I am very disappointed and angry.

Are they in the allegations stages of the arrest, or did they try & convict the perp of the crimes?​

 

[ChickensAreSweet]

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Background checks are pretty much useless!!!!! all they do is see if someone has been caught.... they could have been abusing children for years and never been caught

its almost always someone you know... someone thats trusted... family, family friend, coach, teacher, ect....

the best way to protect your child is talk to them and talk to them often.. and never use the term stranger danger.... or good touch bad touch..

Someone used the term helicopter mom (love the term) .. but they are right... you cant be everywhere, their best protection is education, teach them to trust their gut if someone makes them feel strange... or creepy.. this can all be done with out scaring the crap out of them too

My son was sexually molested by his soccer coach for 2 years... he befriended the family, it took 5 years for him to earn the trust factor before he touched my son... these are patient individuals!

Ok, this made me actually cry.

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

I'm not sure, he pleaded innocent to voyeurism, but admitted to hiding a video camera in his teen aged stepdaughter's bathroom.... He's been arrested, I believe he's been released pending sentencing/trial? He is not allowed within 100 feet of anyone under 18 though, which seems really tricky...