I am still hurt and I know it's silly and stupid. Ok here goes. Today was my younger sisters baby shower. It was at a nice restaurant. A breakfast buffet was served. A huge table was set up just covered with gifts for the coming baby. Table decorations of cute little rubber duckies floated in shallow glass bowls. a cake from one of the REALLY nice and not cheap bakeries sat on another table. Next to the cake were candy bars wrapped in custom wrappers. Over 50 people were invited and had rsvp'd. but the weather did not cooperate. it took me over 3 hours to get there and that was ALL highway travel! Normally only a hour and half drive. anyway. Here is where I turn into a grump. When I was pregnant with the first grandchild 6 years ago I got finger sandwiches from the local grocery store. In moms living room. No baby themed centerpieces at a nice restaurant. No cake. No cute, little, custom wrapper, baby shower favors. I didnt get to have a say in whom to invite. So it was my older aunts, my moms friends and my MIL. None of my friends. No neighbors. No co workers. I got diapers. Which were GREAT. But that is ALL I got. No cute baby clothes. Nothing from our baby gift registry. And we didnt have crazy expensive stuff on it! Not like my sister with FOUR freaking top of the line STROLLERS! What does "baby Susie" get for her coming baby? clothes, top of the line baby whirlpool tub(CRAZY!) And then I find out that mom bought her a stroller! On top of paying for the entire shindig. None of the strollers on her list were under $250! We paid for everything on our own! I mean I know that my sister is moms favorite. she always has been. In fact SHE is another reason why I have an only and didnt want to try for a second child. I saw that my mom always treated her better and I swore that I would never play favorites with my own kids. so to stop that from happening I have an only. Sis always got to go on trips that mom paid for. skiing, Disney, Aruba, mom paid her rent and car payment and insurance through college and then beyond! But I also know that once "Baby Susies" baby arrives that my daughter is going to be pushed to the side. I know that my mom wont do intentionally. But it will happen because the newest family addition is baby Susies baby. I know this sounds petty. But I am just so hurt that this has happened. Oh and today. My daughter was relegated to trash duty for the present opening part of the event. "Oh Sarah, can you take this wrapping paper and throw it away for Auntie sue?" So she got to stand there and run back and forth. And be told to move out of the way for pictures to be taken of my sister opening her gifts. Nice. It was all I could do to NOT go to the bar and ask for a cape coder(cranberry juice and vodka) In fact if I hadnt had to drive all the way home in the crap weather I probably would have. One thing thats good from this is I now know why my dad would invite me to hang out and read the paper etc in another room when there was a "Susie baby" event going on. And EVERY thing was a Susie Baby event. ok... gripe done..But I am still hurt and not sure if I can talk with my mom without being obviously hurt any time soon.